My Partner Makes Me Feel Neglected And Uncared For!!

[hanpet79]

I don't know what to do anymore, my partner ignores my needs.
We live together, he doesn't work neither do i due to various health conditions.
He spends all his awake time on his smart phone or asleep whilst i do the majority of the household chores....we have no days out as he is up all night and asleep most of the day.
I feel neglected, ignored, disrespected.
This ends with me losing me temper....i love him....but not when i spend most days crying.......he is killing what could of been good at one point.
I have been drinking more..........i don't want to split up but i cannot carry on like this.
Ps: i myself can be a nightmare when i lose my temper :(.
Any ideas??

[murraymints]

No wonder you lose your temper !...you need to communicate...do things together...he needs to regulate sleep and lose smart phone....would he go to relate with you for counselling ?

[hanpet79]

He has trouble with day to day communication.......i cannot even get him to talk to me.....he blames my temper.......it feels like a 'catch 22 situation'.
We have only been together 6 months......he knows i have had bad experiences within relationships before, i feel that he thinks i should be grateful for the drippings.

[murraymints]

Sounds toxic to me ! ...you will enter a downward spiral very quickly if he's not prepared to put some effort into your relationship ...if he will not talk at least or attempt to open up to you you have to.....for your own sake.....get rid and move on !

[woofgang]

you ahve only been together six months??? Leave. Now.

[pusskin]

Leave now before he really cracks you up. Go on --run!!!!

[Sqad]

\\\\.he knows i have had bad experiences within relationships before, i feel that he thinks i should be grateful for the drippings.\\\

Could the problem lie with you.....you seem to be going through partners like a dose of salts?

Yes......I agree with woofgang.........leave and try your luck elsewhere.

[hanpet79]

Mmmm guess i knew that was the answer.... :(.....whilst i have an ounce of self esteem left......thanks guys.

[trt]

##Could the problem lie with you.....you seem to be going through partners like a dose of salts?##

I think that's a bit harsh squad!!!!

[Sqad]

trt.........the truth often is harsh..........if of course that IS the truth.

[Mass_Hysteria]

If you had been together for much longer I would have said to work at it but as it's only 6 months (and it is already a nightmare) it can only get worse. Move on and Good Luck!

[pastafreak]

@sqad....where on earth did you read the OP say she was 'going through partners like a dose of salts'?
She said she'd had relationship problems,which can mean any number of things that do not have such a negative connotation.
I agree with most others...leave while you still have a chance. There is no give and take in this relationship,you need someone who shares both the good and bad.

[pusskin]

Agree with pasta!

[2sp_]

At six months you should still be in the honeymoon stage. He obviously isn't the right man for you, and without being offensive, you are not the right woman for him.

I think deep down you know that splitting up is pretty inevitable, cut your losses now and move on.

Good luck.

[Sqad]

pasta..........just a feeling in my bones ;-)

[hanpet79]

I would like to add i have had 3 relationships in 17 years and prior to this one was on my own 2 years.
I resent being called loose.

[pusskin]

Hanpet, I hope you can manage to leave him soon and one day find some one who can make you feel loved, not took for granted. Good luck.

[murraymints]

Best of luck hunni xxx

[slinky.kate]

heard the expresion'ships that pass in the night?what relationship do you have?you sleep at night,he sleeps daytime,you do housework,chores,he lies back when awake and has a relationship with his smartphone instead of you,i don't see this going anywhere,my son is the same as him but he has learning difficulties(not to bad though)I would get rid of him toot sweet,he wont change.

[hanpet79]

I think he has high functioning autism.

[hanpet79]

Thats why i am still here as i know i have many flaws.