When Is A Child Too Big To Pick Up, Cuddle And Carry?

[nellypope]

Yesterday I went to collect my 4 year old from nursery. In our family we are big on shows of affection, cuddles and kisses goodbye and hello. As I was helping my daughter on with her coat (four year olds, so easily distracted) she was showing me her picture of a fish and telling me all about her afternoon etc, I noticed a woman watching me. The nursery assistants are wonderful at my child's nursery, but recently I noticed other women there, they look like either health visitors or social services (but maybe they are just new members of staff without a uniform) I have no idea, but one of these ladies was watching me quite intently, then my daughter says "can I have a pick up cuddle and a carry" to which I am more than happy to give. This lady comes over and says "don't you think she's a bit big for that?"

Now I don't care how old my daughters are, if they want a cuddle even a bit of a carry they're going to get one. Now perhaps this woman didn't intend for her comments to be interpreted as they were. But it left me with a sour taste.

[evilly]

Nelly pope just ignore that woman. How dare she say that to you. Normal people don't interfere with others in that way. Very rude! It's lovely to have such closeness still with your daughter. Kids are young for such a short time

[Ric.ror]

I guess its up to you - the cuddle bit is fine but picking a four year old up! Rather you than me