Sister

[Connemmara]

Know this won't down well with SherrardK - as you all know got my new kitchen recently - and I know kitchen fitter didn't not bring my old kitchen dresser to cancer unit - it was tossed into recycling unit but he won't tell me that.

Everything inside it I utilised it myself glasses - brandy goblets - crystal - not real - brought to charity shops myself. told my sister I never want to see another ornament ever again.


however, she bought me a beautiful black and white lamp last week and I do love it -= this week she has brought me a massive black and white fruit bowl. She knew how I felt and took it back - When she knows I don't want any sh t why does she persecute herself with the weight.

Her own house would make you lose your breath - cos I guess she has OCD. everything looks just looks as it just has been washed and polished . No, that is not me.

I gave her a lift home and we didn't say a word about this massive fruit bowl. People will say you are lucky in that she did that but I am worried she has wasted her money. Anyway, she let slip it was bought in Debenhams and she knew what I was like - she will get her money back. My god why is she putting herself through this. I am very happy with what I have.

[Prudie]

Why do you think she is putting herself through something, you make it sound like purgatory. It is normal to want to buy presents for family, friends and loved ones. Maybe she thought you'd like it as much as the lamp?

[pixie373]

Maybe she just wanted to give you gifts for your new kitchen. It's a nice gesture, but sounds as if you've asked her not to buy anything else. I'm sure she didn't see it as a waste of money- she probably got some pleasure in giving it to you.

[Connemmara]

No to Prudie and Pixi - I am extremely opposite to materialism - she knows how I feel - cos she wrapped the offending item immediately.

To be honest - it is a long story - but I think she wants me to turn my house into her house. Luv her to bits - but we have got history.

I keep trying to say THIS IS MY HOUSE - I truly never interfere in hers. I do think she would have been a professional decorator.

[Connemmara]

sorry, all - don't forget - she did buy me my lamp last week - how much electricity can I afford.

[pixie373]

I'm not entirely convinced about that, conne, I've seen quite a few of your posts about gifts/giving. I think it's a big thing to you. Maybe you're more similar than you realise.

[ummmm]

Why the need to mention Sherr?

[Connemmara]

Eh Pixie - OH PLEASE - I guess I was going to say a lot but you know I am saying nothing - I am damned if I do and damned if I don't LOL - this is my last posting - cos Mr Harv is waiting for me and of course tomorrow I have to figure this kindle thingmajig. goodnight all. Connemmara xxxx

[Mamyalynne]

Maybe when she saw how much you loved the lamp (they use a tiny amount of electricity and don't need to be on all the time) she though a coordinating fruit bowl would set it off.

Old habits die hard and maybe another gentle reminder - 'Dear Sis, please don't spend your hard earned cash on ornaments for me, I have decided on minimal', then pop the kettle on.

[pixie373]

I thought that might be your response;-)
good night xx

[Mamyalynne]

Night Conne, not sure what you wanted us to say.

[black_cat51]

you remind me a little of sheldon in big bang theory!

[Connemmara]

fao mamy - had to laugh - hate these LOL - my sister truly controls me re ornaments.

since the death of her son 7 years ago - the only bird she had - she truly gives me it hard of a Sunday - most times I weep when she goes home cos I can't cope with the misery. Maybe it is her way substituting for her son I don't think so. But there is so much missing. His next anniversary is March and I am dreading that. goodnight all.

[Mamyalynne]

She is lonely and reaching out that is all and it is wonderful.

Night night.

[Mamyalynne]

I mean wonderful she has you to reach out to.

[anneasquith]

conn, I know you love your sister very much, and she you, I suppose you don't like the same things re ornaments, but she was making a nice gesture, thing is , as you liked the lamp she thought you would like the bowl, what about next time she gives you a gift try it in the house before making a decision,

[black_cat51]

or do what i would do .... say thanks, then take it back to the shop for a credit note, and get something i liked :P

[Connemmara]

thanks ALL for your answers - but you can't write all your life down on a site Anneasquith - thought you would be in your beddybyes. Goodnight everyone else.

Just found out that my 2 years great niece is autistic and very bad - "not looking for sympathy". My heart is breaking for the dad ie 37 years old.

[Connemmara]

sorry all I am breaking my heart for her and her son - she truly idolised him bye

[boxtops]

I don't understand you, conne - you clearly set great store by giving gifts and receiving them too, many of your previous threads have been on this topic.
From this story your sister isn't "putting herself through this" - she made a mistake and took the bowl back straight away. It's a strange comment about a gift you like, to think how much power it will use.

Your commenting about the unit going into the skip - that's a mean comment, do you know that for certain, and if it's that important to you, why bring it up, why are your donations to charity mentioned in the context of the presents from your sister? I don't understand why you've picked out sherrard either. Sometimes your threads are quite difficult to understand as to what you want us to say.

[anneasquith]

conn, looks like its been an emotional day/evening for you, im pleased your sister comes to you for dinner on sunday, hope harv is well. hope you sleep well,