Is It A Problem

[bl08791]

this is not about my sister but about me. is it a problem or wrong that, in light of losing my mother and having a lot go on in my personal life, i have almost no desire to get married? its like im almost afraid to let myself fall in love because i know how it can end. i have been dating a girl for about 1 year and 8 months (and 12 days to be exact), but when marriage gets brought up almost always a day or two later i end breaking up with her. i hate to bring her into my problems, and i dont want to hurt her. i dont know what to do though.

[Richard1966]

I think its more a problem that you know to the day how long you have been dating. Its a bit obsessional. And why are you worried about marriage even before you go into a relationship, most people don't go looking for marriage just someone they like and get on with. Your obsessing so yes its problem. No idea where your sister comes into this. Id strongly suggest that you don't date for a while and just see what happens. And get some counselling to deal with the feeling of grief you have regarding your mother.

[jno]

only you can answer this. Do you think it's a problem? Then it is.

If you do, counselling might help; you could ask your doctor.