For People Whose Partners Sometimes Work Away

[Smowball]

Mr Smow sometimes works away - maybe one night,sometimes two. I happened to mention to a friend that I never hear from him when he's away - not even a txt to say he's arrived and she said that's not normal lol. What do you think?

[naomi24]

Doesn't sound as though there's anything you can do about it really. Very selfish of him to dismiss your concerns like that though.

[andres]

I have to say that in this day age a text or phone call would be appreciated. I can remember the days when going away meant no communication whatsoever with the people back home.Just a postcard to say ----'wish you were here' ,and that often didn't arrive until after you had got back home.

[EdmundD]

Couples vary but I spent years travelling around the world on business trips and I always made a point of keeping in touch with my wife, usually on a daily basis, particularly when e-mail and texts became available. Apart from anything else I wanted to know that she was OK.

[Patsy33]

If he's always been like this I shouldn't worry about it. If not, then maybe you're taken for granted?

[ummmm]

It's not normal in this household. My OH would phone me every morning. He usually phones me daily whether away or not.

[hc4361]

People think it's very odd that I never visit my wife when she's in hospital. The fact is that she hates it and much prefers a phone call once a day

[NoMercy]

Smow, do you think he's hiding something?

[rockyracoon]

My OH usually lets me know he's arrived, but that could be any amount of hours after when he remembers to call. Contact after that is sporadic. I never worry if I don't hear from him.

[ladybirder]

EdmundD makes a very good point - "Apart from anything else I wanted to know that she was OK".
I would be really miffed if he didn't bother to check that I was OK and would take a hard look at the relationship. But that's just me.

[bodeker]

I would want at least a text to say Hi I have arrived or a text to say Goodnight. Just so I know partner is ok.

[Smowball]

NoM - I thought I had your email address from way way back but maybe I don't??

[Smowball]

And yes I'm probably being silly but yes to not even check that everything is ok at home .......... Oh well hey ho!

[NoMercy]

I'm sure someone on FB can give it to you. Not my NHS one though, as I'm off work atm, as you know.

[ummmm]

NoM...I have sent smow a FB message.

[NoMercy]

Cool :)

[Smowball]

Oh I don't use that FB account anymore. Erm........... Thinking!!

[Islay]

Whose to say what is normal, every relationship is different.

As is every situation, sometimes hubby calls me sometimes he doesn't.

[237SJ]

I work away all the time. I have a policy of not contacting home unless there is an emergency. That`s normal for some people.

[fairycakes69]

My hubby is away a lot, sometimes for a few days other times for a few months. I know when he's bored as that's when he texts me. Never bothered me, everyone is different, whatever works for you. My BIL phones or texts his wife 2 times a day (there's not a lot of trust between them). My father in law used to phone his wife every lunch time and he came home every night, drove her nuts.

[Peter Pedant]

I used to be asked why I hadnt rung to say I had arrived
and I tended to answer - because you would have heard about it on the news if I hadnt ....