My Beloved Mum Died Today - Please Help Me.

[jambutty]

I don't know how I'm going to cope.

[ummmm]

I echo what Mamy says x

[jambutty]

Oh thank you Mamya x

[jambutty]

And you too ummmm

[murraymints]

hope you get some sleep Jam....will be thinking of you xx

[chrissa1]

So, so sorry for the loss of your dear, Mum, jambutty. Thinking of you.

[Islay]

Sorry to hear your sad news, remember the good times and the happy memories xx

[Arksided]

Sad to hear, my condolences to you and your family.

[rsvp]

sorry for your loss jambutty - it will get better in time although at the moment you won't think so.

[ladybirder]

So sorry jammy, if you were near I'd be round like a shot but I believe you are somewhere in the North. Light a candle for her. Feel the cyber hugs from AB. Keep talking to us if and when you can. XX

[ummmm]

I don't believe in the 'it gets better in time' stance. I believe that everyone should shake off the 'stiff upper lip' attitude. Cry as much as you feel you need to and never let anyone put a time limit on your grief...x

[jno]

I think both can be true, ummmm. Grive as long as your heart tells you to but take comfort from others saying that some day it will become easier.

[woofgang]

jam....you will get through this and you will cope. The sadness never completely goes and nor would you want it to....its the price we pay for loving and being loved.....x

[NoMercy]

Oh I'm so sorry, Jambutty.

Grief is the worst pain a human being can ever feel.

Sadly death is part of life and something that will touch us all a great many times before its our own turn to pass over. In many ways I think your mother is the most important person you'll ever know and love. She is wise, loving, nurturing, guiding, protective and knowing. She's perfect in your eyes. She has shaped you into the person you are today and you are more like her than you could ever imagine. You will try to emulate her many times throughout your life and you will never stop missing her.

But if there's one thing I know for certain, she would want you to go on living a rich and fulfilled life and not to spend forever grieving.

Once again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

[jakep]

We can feel the shock and desperation in your post. I am so sorry for your loss.
If you are alone and desperate in the night please consider phoning the Samaritans. They are there to listen and help people in many kinds of situations.
They have given me comfort in the past.
Just endeavour to cope with one day at a time. My best wishes x

[tali1]

Sorry for the loss.Have to agree with everything ummmm says

[grumpy01]

Sorry to read your sad news.I can appreciate how you must feel having lost my own Mother 4 years ago.You must be very shocked as this seems to have come suddenly and therefore you were unprepared.I hope that you can draw strength from the messages of kindness and sympathy extended by everyone on here.

[marval]

I am very sorry for your loss, losing a parent is a very difficult time.

Take time out to think of all the good things you shared.

There is no wrong way or right way to cope, just take life in little steps, and you will get there.

[Sammy48]

Jambutty, I am so so sorry for your loss. I feel your pain my love. When you are ready, look into getting grief counselling, talking does help. xx

[Lie-in King]

My sincere condolences to you & your family, jambutty. xx

[DTCwordfan]

Mine too, and there's always someone around here, even the insomniacs take over until boaty comes on with GMEB in the morning and he has handled the loss of his beloved.....so don't hold back if you want to ask why, or lash out, or whatever.....it's part of a well-rehearsed pattern of grief many of us have experienced.