Depression

[Elisaaa]

I think i have lost all of my life time without doing or learning anything usefull.....
This feeling is killing me.i feel too old while i am only 22...does any one have any idea how can i quench this feeling?!

[Hopkirk]

I'm 58, and can hardly remember 22, I've done so much since then.

[nailit]

Depression is a killer. Its NOT feeling a bit low or a bit fed up. Its debilitating and if no one has been there they seriously cant understand it. I have suffered from it (on and off) since been a child, I'm 52 this year. Try and get some support from ur GP and mental health services. I find the side effects of anti depressants unbearable but they have been a life saver...literally...for a lot of people. I'm currently waiting for an appointment with a shrink for a medication review as ive had to stop taking mine. Theres always a lot of very supportive people on here to give support as well, been a life saver to me at times. Good luck Elisaaa

[Mamyalynne]

Make a list of things you feel you've missed so far and gradually see what you can tick off, starting with the smallest first.

Every success will spur you on.

You have a lifetime to catch up.x

[rowanwitch]

Yes.... difficult as it sounds do something either learn something new, start some exercise even dancing to music in your bedroom and see your gp, I spent a lot of my life feeling like that, but you will look back one day and be surprised at what you have done and seen. You are not too old at all, loads of time to do stuff. Good luck be kind to yourself and look for the good stuff.

[Elisaaa]

But i do not have any idea how to start.i hate the small earia im liveing in..."so i do nit even like to get out of home!:/
And i think that my teenage period"that i think was best in my life"wont come back to me...

[Mamyalynne]

You're right, you won't get your teenage years back.

See your GP and see what he/she recommends then try to summon up some action plan when you feel able.

[pastafreak]

You can call, text, or find plenty of info on the website for mind...

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helplines/

[Elisaaa]

Well thank you Mamyalynne but trough the 4 past years i have gotten too depressed and paranoid and i think that i can not make friends and even trust to people at all..you wont belive but even my gp...i do not like to meet people face to face and talk about my problems and i think thats why i am here:(

[rowanwitch]

My teenage years were rubbish and I am very glad I won't get them back, and you may not always live in a small area, and while you do expand your world by reading, exploring the web, maybe when you feel better you could think of one thing you'd like to do, something you could reasonably achieve and work out the steps you need to get there. Good luck and good wishes.

[nailit]

//i do not like to meet people face to face and talk about my problems and i think thats why i am here:( //
Been there, done that Elisaaa.
Theres a lot of good people on here who will support you, as Ive said, been a godsend at times even if I didnt see it at the time. But you really do need to get it down on ur medical records via a GP.

[Mamyalynne]

One step at a time then, make a promise to try to and make appointment to discuss with GP.

Once you've made that start you'll be rightly pleased with yourself.

The help doesn't come looking for us, I know that to my cost.

[rowanwitch]

Have you tried the Mind website, there are lots of useful resources there, but your gp is still the best option. I remember how hard it was to make that first appointment, and how hard it was to actually go. I have used lots of different services since, some helped some didn't but without taking the first step you can't find out what works for you.

[Elisaaa]

Sometimes i feel like i realy need to talk to someome:(but im too shy and paranoid...i hate my nowdays situation and.i do not have 1%hope for my future..coz its so clear that it wont be bright at all:(...talking to go wont help.they always say everything will be ok.and it even seems like an insuot to me.justlike someone is kidding me..;(

[nailit]

//they always say everything will be ok.//
So you HAVE already seen someone about it then?

[rowanwitch]

Whereabouts do you live, just a general area... maybe someone on here will know of a local service you can self refer to.

[jennyjoan]

The great thing for me was to learn to play the organ - loved it and used to practise for hours on end.

You are too young to feel old - dance and have loads of music in your life.

[Elisaaa]

Not realy have not met
A gp but they always say that what els can they say?
Plus since i feel nobody is going to judge me here im gonna reveal an another fact about myself!
I am too scared if getting old.im not sute if other girls feel same like me but..thats how i feel soon i will be 30 and after that i will lose my attraction...while i have not lived my life time the way i wanted too:(.its so sad..i dont want to get older:(((

[nailit]

Think I felt the same at 22 Elisaaa, 30 yrs on and I don't give a monkeys about ageing or attractiveness. (though for any female Right Said Fred fans I would be a catch lol)
Get a GP appointment.

[woofgang]

hang on.....isn't he gay?

[nailit]

Who?