One For Grandparents!

[boona]

Do you treat your Grandchildren equal? The children in question are 9yrs and 12yrs, would you spend more on one child than the other because they are "a little bit older" ? (Both sets of parents earn the same amount)

[woofgang]

I think if you are giving one gift each and its something the child really wants, then monetary value is not so important. If its "stuff" then there should be equivalence....maybe not to the penny but pretty much.

[Rockrose]

It’s not about children getting their calculator out! But if they talk and discover what each other has got if it’s a vast difference how will they feel that nanny doesn’t love them the same?
These are children don’t forget.

[Sqad]

"These are children don’t forget."

A good time to learn that life is not always fair.

[spathiphyllum]

"What happens when/if child A discovers child B had double spent on him?"

If they moan you tell em life aint fair and they're lucky they got anything at all with that kind of selfish attitude. The world doesn't owe anyone anything. Or you say so and so is older. Simple.

[spathiphyllum]

lol ennit sqad

[woofgang]

is it selfish to be hurt if you feel that Granny loves one child more than another?

[Sqad]

It is spath......and these are the human beings that are being asked by their teachers if they feel male or female......madness.

[Rockrose]

Well sqad your not exactly known for your fathering skills with respect!

[spathiphyllum]

Woof, it depends if you associate fiances with love.. If you do then you've been sent down a slippery slope by the parents.

[spathiphyllum]

Don't listen to them sqad, i'm sure you're a fabulous "daddy".

[NellieMay]

Value of present shouldn't matter - but this seems to be what Christmas is about now. It never used to be. Kids never considered how much a present cost. Unfortunately, materialism has taken over. Where did the Christmas spirit go?

[Rockrose]

Well woof apparently it is!

[spathiphyllum]

Christmas spirit is rum isn't it?

[Rockrose]

Nellie this. It about cost this is about treating the children the same, spend 50p each but spend the same on both of them.

[woofgang]

I am not thinking of the cost but of the thought behind it....one child getting one gift and one child getting a pile of things.

[Sqad]

RockRose.......I agree, it would seem that according to many ABer female "experts" i have fallen well below par.
However, we are dealing with grandchildren, but the result is the same, a poor show by granddad.

[pastafreak]

Who mentioned calculators?...and my Q was "what if".
As others have said, it's too easy for a child to realise or think they are not loved as much.
I can still remember the pain lil pasta felt on a few ocassions. Though in her case it was words not money.

[spathiphyllum]

It depends how people raise their children. What to the child is important, and why?

For example i'd rather have all year loving parents who cared and catered for me but couldn't afford anything at all than a pair or parents who didn't really care about me at all but spent 5K on my Christmas presents. Teaching a child £££ = love is awful.

[Sqad]

Spath.

The kids were brought up the way WE thought appropriate and not for personal popularity. I have never asked the kids if i was a good father as i am not interested in their reply.
As for grandchildren they are the responsibility of my sons and it is their decisions as to how they bring THEIR children up.

[spathiphyllum]

even if you were a good father that isn't to say they'd like you more, or less anyway.. And that really, is what this is about.. isn't it?

that and making the grandchildren feel equal or about how you feel about doing that or not doing that.