One For Grandparents!

[boona]

Do you treat your Grandchildren equal? The children in question are 9yrs and 12yrs, would you spend more on one child than the other because they are "a little bit older" ? (Both sets of parents earn the same amount)

[Zacs-Master]

No. Parent's earnings are irrelevant.

[Cloverjo]

I don't have grandchildren, but I have 3 nephews ranging in age from 10 to 23. They all get the same amount from me.

[Rockrose]

Not a grandparent but had a grandmother who treated my eldest brother entirely better than the rest of us because he was the eldest and the spit of her father.
It breeds ill feelings and causes problems so treat them the same.

[dannyk13]

No. I would spend according to the needs, or wishes, of each grandchild.

[kvalidir]

Kids are naturally very fair minded so treat them equally x

[spathiphyllum]

I agree with Danny, it would depend on personalities, what they wanted / how they went about this.

[Eleena]

I only have one grandchild. Had I more, they would be treated equally.

[SparklyKid]

Got eight ranging from 22 to almost born. All get the same.

[Uriah Heep]

Just buy them a suitable present. Cost should not come into it. It is often not the recipient who judges - it is the parents!

[boona]

I would treat equally too. My mum told me this year she was cutting down on Christmas money. I dont have a problem with that at all, I am not bothered if she just spent £1, she said she was going to spend about £60 on each child so I helped her choose a nice gift for my daugter bout £55 then at the wkend she said she has bought my nephew some "extra" stuff totalling another £70. When I said it would be nice if you just spent equal she said he is older and he is not seeing his father this year it's a shame (his dad is not
really bothered about him and hasn't been in contact for a few months so doubtful he will see him at Christmas)

[Cloverjo]

Oh dear, poor kid. I don't think extra pressies will make up for an uncaring dad. It could cause resentment from his cousin.

[jno]

what you spend on a child should be irrelevant (within reason; no good buying one of them an Aston Martin and givng another a box of matches). If an appropriate gift for one child cost more than an appopriate gift for another, that'd be fine by me. It's the thought that counts, yes?

[Rockrose]

The children should be treated equally IMO as I said I have been the child who was considered less equally and it’s horrible

[dannyk13]

There is more to treating them equally than just spending the same amount on each of them.As I said in an earlier post their needs and wishes should be taken into account.

[follyfancier]

same amount for both

[pastafreak]

What happens when/if child A discovers child B had double spent on him?

[Rockrose]

Exactly pasta

[dannyk13]

Pasta, from experience I have found that provided both got what they wanted then neither would complain.

[jno]

pasta, children who get out their calculators to assess how much is spent on them shouldn't get anything at all.

[Sqad]

It is the act of giving them a present......equality is irrelevant.