Dealing With Belongings After A Death

[bednobs]

what do most people do - keep, sell, give away, chuck? in all honesty it feels far too hard to do any of the above but i guess it has to be done at some point? has anyone done pne of the above and regretted it? How long did you wait before dealing with things?

[Patsy33]

I'd go along with what folks on here have already said, bednobs. There is no set time. You'll know when you are ready. All the best at this difficult time x

[bednobs]

thanks everyone, at the moment i have just gathered stuff up and shut the door but will occasionally come across something (a sock at the back of the dryer) that just knocks me sideways. I like the thought of someone else benefiting from the things though, so perhaps that's something to look into

[tamborine]

After my OH died eldest son said bailiffs would clear my house, so he took all his fathers valuables. Bailiffs never called!

[Maydup]

I found it comforting to choose some photographs and something I could wear. Whether it be a favourite jumper, a dressing gown, a scent, or a piece of jewellery, choose those things first and gradually the rest becomes a little easier.

[rowanwitch]

Most of Redmans things were gone to the charity shop within a week, his best watch to my sister's husband as it was too heavy for me, a friend had some clothes another his leather jacket , I turned his old shirts, pyjamas and boxers into a bedspread and all I kept was his dressing gown(useful in not weather) and hair clippers, one casual jacket that I will wear when I lose weight because it was silly money and I love the colour. I have his seaman's papers, cap badge, and that is about all. His ashes are in the bottom of the wardrobe as I can not afford to charter a boat to scatter them.

[ladybirder]

Would you really have to charter a boat Rowan. Couldn't you for instance stand facing out to sea on some high cliffs, say Beachy Head, somewhere similar, on a calm day and scatter them over the sea?

[bednobs]

do you regret getting rid of his things rowan?

[Khandro]

Burn them.

[MrsLadyBug]

When my OH died we gave most of his clothes to charity.
He was a big tie person though and after any favourites were chosen by any one I made a sort of collage of most of the remaining ones. Had to cut a lot of the top and just arranged them and put in a large picture frame. There was quite a few, possibly 20+..
It makes people smile because they know he was a stickler for getting the knot right and had a different tie for different ocassions.

[Mamyalynne]

Burning items that could be of great use to others is so wasteful Khandro and knowing a favourite sweater is keeping someone warm can indeed bring you a grain of comfort in your dark hours.

[Khandro]

Mamya; It's what the Romas do, & I'm a Roma at heart :0)
p.s. The world is suffering from a surfeit of clothing

[Mamyalynne]

The cod, poor and homeless don't have a surfeit.

Sorry Bednobs, take care ♥l

[Mamyalynne]

*cold

[bednobs]

no worries. even walking past the closed door is difficult at the moment, so i think it'll be some time before i can sort the things out