Holiday Before Wedding

[Loulou4982]

We are getting married in Spain next year. For the actual wedding we have a villa that sleeps 20 people for four nights One of those days is the day of the wedding the 20 people will be close friends and immediate family before the wedding I would like to go to Spain to relax with my immediate family and ideally with my fiance. He thinks it’s unfair that I’m not inviting his family to this but in all honesty I don’t want his family there I just want to relax with My family before the wedding
He thinks we should invite his side to so another 8 to 10 people as to be inclusive. Am I being unreasonable to want to spend some time with my family without everyone else given that the days around the wedding they will all be staying with us at the wedding Villa

[barry1010]

Oh! I've read it again, pasta, and I think you are right. Lack of punctuation caused the confusion.

Loulou, will you be having a big hen do, too?

[teacake44]

All the problems you get before a wedding, during, and after is because of guests, and both sides of family. Its so easy to solve, we will be coming out of the RO at ?? it will be nice to see anyone, who would like to see us, but then we are flying off by ourselves to have a ball. :0)

[barry1010]

What's RO, teacake?

[jakep]

As NJ has said, do you want a wedding....or a marriage.
If you truly want a marriage you should compromise with the wedding.
You can have a fun time with lots of family in the UK.
Obviously your choice but I can’t understand the ‘abroad’ thing!

[barry1010]

Got it! Register Office

[jakep]

Are you going to reply to all your comments?

[teacake44]

jak, some folk put a thread up and then may be look later, their not just going to sit there all day, if they have other things to do.

[teacake44]

Forgot to add, along with 11.33, all the ones that turn up at the RO, tell them that they will receive a fridge magnet on your return, as a thank you.

[iluvmargie]

It sounds like you don't really take your fiancé's feelings into account - doesn't bode well.

[Gast0n]

The question is really difficult. First of all, it's not usual to have a holiday before the wedding. People prefer to have some rest right after the ceremony. For instance, I had a wedding in an interesting place https://www.poptop.uk.com/venue/nancarrow-farm/ and only after all ended (restaurants, ceremonies, meetings with relatives, friends, and so on) we finally visited Miami. But anyways, I think your wishes should be respected and such a behaviour isn't good. I would let my significant other have some time with her family.