Ashes

[Thisoldbird]

I've heard from the Crematorium my beloved ashes are ready for collection.. we had a Direct Cremation as discussed by us both well before he was I'll...we will have a celebration of his life later in the year.

I personally don't get the sprinkling of ashes idea. Not something I would do if left to me. My husband requested his ashes sprinkled at a favorite spot of his..I respect his wishes..

We are a very small family, so am surprised at 2 requests I've had..one telling me she wants it before she goes on holiday early September!
The other wants 'some' of the ashes for a memorial arrangement they are having made.
I'm not sure how I feel about rushing to do anything with them just yet.
I could be unpopular if I speak up.

Our only child passed away 2020..his partner still has his ashes

Not sure why I'm writing this,

[Old_Geezer]

Re sprinkling.

We are all made of star dust. It forms our body for a short while, then returns to the planet we lived on. It is the natural way of things. So having a special occasion marking when we are returned, by the sprinkling of the ashes, is no bad way to mark the life of the individual.

But again, each to their own.

[Zacs-Master]

That’s a nice way to put it, OG.

[wolf63]

We sprinkled my dad's ashes in Loch Earn, it was about a year after his death. For the first year his ashes sat in his armchair which was in front of his favourite window.

The day out to Loch Earn was a really enjoyable and fun day out. It was just me and my little brother. We retold 'dad' stories in the car.

Everybody has a different attitude to death, I have never been to my mother's grave since she died in 1996. I feel that it is pointless.

T O B - do what makes you feel better. Don't care what anyone thinks but don't spread the ashes on a windy day!

[Thisoldbird]

Thank you all for interesting points. Left to me I'd never collect the ashes of anyone. Like Sqad I cannot believe the ashes one is given are anything but wood ash. It's our only Grandson that would like a small amount..I'm not sure what form it will take but he is having something made with a space for the ashes..he and Grandad were more than best buddies. They idolised each other.
He has visited this evening, we had a heart to heart..he agreed there is no rush to do anything.
Thank you