Grandaughter Problems

[fruitsalad]

My Grandaughter age 11 stays with me 2 or 3 times a week, and this morning on the way to taking her to school, I found a vape which she denied, it was hers or knowing what it was, I told her I was throwing it away, and explained the dangers of smoking etc., I put it on the side to throw away later, and as soon as we were about to go out of the door, she decided she needed the loo, after dropping her to school, I noticed it was missing, obviously she's picked it up, now I know she hangs about with a couple of girls one a year older than her and one 4 years older, when she stays at her own home, and they both vape, (not sure if their Mother knows) but they are not my problem, my Grandaughter is, I am wondering if I should tell my Grandaughters parents, or keep quiet on this occasion, I don't want her to feel she can't come to me with any problems, if she knows I tell her parents.

[Hopkirk]

Cut her some slack. In the scale of things it is fairly minor.

[fruitsalad]

I'm just worried it may lead on to more serious things, but I have told her, I will not tell her parents this time, as long as she heeds my warnings

[choux]

I wondered how you got on with picking her up, fruitsalad. Hugs and kisses I expect. Long may you enjoy a loving and close relationship with her :)

[fruitsalad]

Hi Choux no I don't pick her up today, Thank you for the advice very much appreciated

[mallyh]

i actually wrote a reply then deleted it as i didn't want to worry you further but seeing your 16.33 post .i hope she listens to you as peer pressure can lead to all sorts x

[choux]

Advice is easily given but I was sincere, fruitsalad. If it helped I am pleased. Your post shows just how much you love her and that is very special.

[choux]

fruitsalad, I have just seen this article.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-63076876