Am I Just A Terrible Human?

[TripwestDakota85]

So I'm a guy aged 38 and have been in a relationship with my girlfriend who is 28 for 5 years. Lately I've been seeing 2 girls aged 20 and 19 from my work, 1 girl who is 18 that used to work at my job and another girl who is 25 who has just started. I can't pick one. And none know about eqch other yet they have all met each other. I am mentally and physically drained. What should I do?

[JimF]

Think of the worst case scenario and, if you can live with that, enjoy it while it lasts - it probably won't last very long...

[royfromaus]

Not being able to make up your mind doesn't make you a terrible person.

I sometimes ponder whether to wear jeans or trousers for instance.

[jourdain2]

You could start by being loyal to one at a time?  You've obviously realised that there are reasons for being monogamous.  

You have to decide which lady you wish to 'date'.  What do you look for? 

At 38 it is more than time that you either decided that casual relationships are 'you' and abandon ideas of 'relationships' - or give up 'playing the field' and cheating on your long-term girlfriend.

At the moment, yes, you are not behaving like a great human being.  You can amend this.

[Atheist]

You (a boy)'ve got a long term relationship with a female friend (a girl), and now you have found 4 'girls' who you like (?) and none of them know that you fancy other 'girls', and you can't 'pick' one (i.e. you can't choose which one to favour with your divine presence?)

Why are you here asking your question? You could start by trying to become human and relating to other humans in a human way.

Of course, you could instead try to seduce me and add another poor girl to your harem.

[Canary42]

What's wrong with the unfortunate 28-year-old that she no longer appeals - you really should tell her (as gently as possible) that you've been cheating on her - she deserves at least that after a 5-year relationship.

In fact, you would be well-advised to start thinking about other peoples feelings for a change.

 

[jourdain2]

'SNAP' Atheist.  He could always try.... 😉

[douglas9401]

If you're lucky it'll just be the love you're sharing.

[Arksided]

You're cetainly a member IMO (all of 20+ mins)

Good answers above though.

[Barsel]

Roy how do you manage to compare not being able to decide whether to wear trousers or jeans to some lothario who thinks it's ok to see other girls while he has been in a relationship with someone for 5 years?

 

[elliemay1]

Why begin a sentence with 'so'?

[royfromaus]

Isn't the thread about indecisiveness?

[Atheist]

ellie; because he's american. They do use 'so' and they also say 'seeing' when they mean 'screwing'. And they also think they are fantastic.

Frank Zappa's song 'Bobbie Brown' illustrates

 

[elliemay1]

I just find it annoying and can't take the post seriously!

[Moorea7]

What makes you think we would be interested in your personal life far less give you advice on it?  You're not terrible - you're just a philanderer.

[elliemay1]

an overactive imagination maybe??

[Arksided]

I think so Ellie... dreamer. He should turn off the internet and find a real girl.

[pastafreak]

While I don't generally get bothered by age differences....but...3 girls all in the 18-20 year range. Why...so young? Are they at the same level of maturity as you? And if they are not...why?

Whatever the reason, it's not very clever to be stringing along so many people. It will catch up with you. And it won't be very nice.

[andy-hughes]

Yes, you're a terrible human.

Ok?

[royfromaus]

 Moorea7

  You're not terrible - you're just a philanderer.

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[Moorea7]

I take it you're joking Roy 😀