Do You Think He Has Gone Off Me?

[abbeylee90]

I said I'd make a new thread earlier so like I explained in my other one. This guy I went on a date with 2 weeks ago and as I explained he said he wanted a 2nd we were meant to go out last Friday but he cancelled as he has a cold. He said on Sunday he would let me know if he wants to go out this week but said yesterday he has a cold but also hasn't been messaging me in the morning like he normally would 

[newmodarmy]

snapchat, i think, pete.

In return, can you suggest what "No he don't said if a friend thing" meant please?

[Redhelen72]

Abbey what does it matter if you have deleted his Snapchat?

He has given you more than enough to gauge that he is not interested.

Let it go!

[newmodarmy]

It's better to find out fairly quickly that he's not interested, rather than have him string you along for ages. Looking back, I think the signs were there early on that he wasn't as keen on you as you seemed to be on him. He was just looking for a way out/hoping you'd get the hint.

I'm amazed an attractive, well dressed girl doesn't get to know men in the wine bars etc you visit

[Captain2]

Can't say as I blame the lad for wanting to go travelling - bet he leaves his phone at home too.

[abbeylee90]

He don't me accompanying him and said it a friend things so maybe going with his friends.

I was going to leave messaging him until my friend said to other day

[abbeylee90]

Was only last Monday was last time we spoke until yesterday 

[Moorea7]

11.45 It amazes me too that Abbey doesn't meet up with some nice Welsh guy when she is out and about dressed in the glam stuff she pictures on here.  Maybe she portrays the "shrinking violet"?

[Countrylover]

Sorry, but I can't read right through all this Abbie.  Can you just let me know how many actual dates you have had with him.  I don't believe he has ever been on you so can't go off you.  It seems he is a kind person who doesn't want to hurt your feelings.  Just stop messaging him.  

[abbeylee90]

I went on 1 date with him after wanted to go on a 2nd and always messaged me before he went to work and cancelled 2nd date due to illness but didn't try and rearrange 

[Countrylover]

Oh for the days when mobile phones and messaging didn't exist!   

[Countrylover]

Move on. He's not interested.  All you will do now is annoy him if you pester him with messages.  

[abbeylee90]

I can't pester him with messages if I've deleted his sc I Saif best he comes off POF.

Which profile picture?

[abbeylee90]

*said

[lankeela]

Abbey first dates are just away to get to know people - they don't mean you are going to hook up forever.  Maybe after thinking about it your constant messaging has made him think you are too clingy.  I know you have difficulty understanding people communicating with you, but please take it from me you should not keep messaging him.  If he did want to take it further he would invite you on another date and not keep making excuses.  Its not your fault, sometimes things don't work out how both people want them to.

[abbeylee90]

I didn't pester with messaged up until yesterday we hadn't spoken since Monday. He said he wanted another date with me book a table and cancelled

[Captain2]

Abbey, you said to him 'best if you come off POF'????

Really? After one meeting? No wonder he's backed off from communicationg with you.

 

[abbeylee90]

No at the end I did yesterday when he said he going travelling so don't want a relationship. He was the one that said he think its pointless when girls just want to chat on there and not meet up also been keeping my options open.

[lankeela]

Many years ago I had an enquiry from a lady who wanted to rescue a Greyhound.  I took her details and said I would get back to her when we had something suitable.  Over the next couple of weeks she bombarded me with phone calls asking when I would get her a dog, and then asking if she had done something to upset me, then asking if it was a scam and saying her family told her to go to the police as I was obviously a criminal trying to commit fraud etc etc.  I found out from someone that she had been doing this to other rescues and was very lonely and was autistic, and did not understand how to interact with people.  I did manage to find her a dog, and it had a lovely home for a long time.  Moral of the story don't keep pestering and you might get what you want in the end.

[abbeylee90]

Like I said I didn't pester as I hadn't spoken to him since Monday