To tell or not to tell, that is the question

[nicnicnic]

Hi Everyone

I have a friend (who I also work with) who I really like (that doesnt quite sum up how I feel, but you know what I mean). I know that he used to/possibly still does fancy his friend (we have never actually talked about this, he has told other people but not me), but she now has a boyfriend.

Sometimes I think he likes me too, and people have sometimes thought we ae a couple, but I'm not sure. He's quite flirty in general.

So my question is, do I tell him how I feel? We get on so well, and I think it would be a great relationship, but I just dont know if I can face being rejected!

[sexysvetlana]

I personally wouldn't risk the chance of losing the frienship.If you tell him how you feel he may turn you down and than that could well be a good friendship ruined.What is more you have no real evidence that he likes you.Do you not think he would have asked you out already if he was interested?That is my opinion anyway.

[helliebobs]

Tell him cos you'll only regret it if you don't!

Having said, every time it happened to me it always ******** up the friendship in the end, so you have to weigh it all up!

The first poster here (can't say her name, I just can't) has a point, but he could be feeling exactly the same way as you are and he could be afraid to tell you how he really feels. Also, if it turns out he doesn't feel the same, and you're really good mates, you should be able to talk to him and clear the air so it doesn't spoil your friendship

Good luck and let us know how you get on!!

[~posy-jo~]

i think maybe u should tell him, u may always be wondering what if otherwise. or drop a few subtle hints first and see what happens. whatever u decide good luck and like hellie said keep us updated xXx

[~Wingnut~]

Hmmm what to do, what to do??!
If it were me, I wouldn't say anything but start being a bit more flirty, touch his hand/leg/arm for just that second longer, keep eye contact just for that mini second longer.
Invite him out for a drink after work more, if your invited to BBQ's see if he wants to pop along too?
I agree that lifes too short, but I'm only saying do this for a month or so if he still hasn't got the message by then, either tell him straight or forever keep your love to yourself but have a friend for possibly life.

Hope it works out the way you want it to :o) Take care xx