Nice Guy

[Roughquest]

I have met a really lovely, intelligent, handsome, generous, solvent, guy - he treats me too well so far, is very complimentary, he is the perfect gentleman, we have been out on 4 dates so far, he insists on driving me everywhere, wont let me pay for anything, he is generous to a fault, he likes me so much - WHY THE HELL DO I NOT FANCY HIM ????? Think I will give up the dating game for good...I am so down today, he is everything I like in a man....should I give it time and see if my affections grow for him ? WAAAAGH ! Usually with me though, if the initial spark isnt there then it isnt going to be....

[1kayvee]

I'm the same as you roughquest if the initial spark isn't there, it isn't likely to ever be.

He sounds lovely though...........feel free to chuck him my way!!

Good luck, go with the flow for now and see what happens

[missyR]

There is one thing we as women should search for in a man, that you have not listed - humour.
It HAS to be there, most women say that humour is the power of attraction and normally if i fancy someone it's cos they know how to make me laugh!
If by any chance you just forgot to put it there then i don't know what could be the case - sexual chemistry perhaps?
But if you aren't drawn by his humour and only slightly giggle or do a nervous laugh then he's probably not the guy for you.

[sleepy1]

oh dear rough . sorry to hear that . if you dont fancy him cant you both just be friends ? he does sound very nice . dont be to hard on your self if the spark isnt there it just isnt there . life is a bit ch . take care xxx

[Roughquest]

Oh I forgot, he does without doubt have the same sense of humour as I do, and we always have a great time out together.....I dont think Im ever going to be satisfied, its me I know it is....I need my head examining!

[sleepy1]

just send him to me , lol

[bubbles4920]

maybe its because he isnt a challenge for you and instead this poor guy is just handing himself to you on a plate. personally i like a guy with a bit of an edge though i know that isnt a safe bet. he will no doubt make someone a wonderful husband, we all have our soul mate out there, just a case of finding him/her.keep us posted!

[shazzzz]

roughquest you proberbly like the naughty boys like me i find the nice ones a bit strange even stranger if they open doors

[shazzzz]

you proberly are attracted to the naughty boys always think the nice ones are strange even stranger if they open doors or by a round have deciced to give up i am a lot richer in pockett and mind

[nursecarla]

Lack of mystery, he doesnt have that edge that some people like or the chemistry just isn't right it could be anything xx why dont you see where it goes? sometimes it takes time for a spark to develop xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Trinny]

Hiya Roughquest, How did you manage to meet another man so quickly? xx

[Roughquest]

Hello Trinny ! Well, was on a night out lol! I thought well what have I got to lose, he seemed a pleasant enough chap, and he is, he is perfection.... ! He makes me feel like a millionairess !!

[Roughquest]

He has made someone a wonderful husband - twice ! He has been married twice, his first wife had an affair and he left her, his 2nd wife he married was a mistake.... :-(

[Trinny]

I should go out with you one night then lol............I have more chance of winning lottery, than meeting a nice man (cue kleenex and violins) :(

[Roughquest]

Darling, I can give you his mobile number ! He is truly lovely man ! He is athletic, has his own business, drives a gorgeous car, smells nice, looks after himself, very fit and athletic, great sense of humour, piercing blue eyes, opens doors for you, pulls out chairs for you, takes you to the best restaurants......I HATE MY LIFE !!!!!!!!!

[Trinny]

but you still dont fancy him? Must admit, he does sound a bit good to be true.....But be some catch there!

[Roughquest]

Too perfect maybe his downfall ? Credit to him, though he does know how to make a woman feel special ! He wanted to see me tonight, but I declined saying I promised to spend an evening with a girlfriend of mine instead. Oh dear....what is a girl to do? Perhaps I still miss Mr Paramedic - no, scrap that - there is my answer, I DO MISS Mr paramedic very much.......

[Trinny]

have you not heard from Mr Paramedic at all then Rough? I do know what its like to try and contact someone and they completely ignore you..... Its bloody fustrating

[Roughquest]

Nothing from Mr Paramedic Trinny, it is very frustrating and you would think that the older people get the more honest they would be about 'chatting' about things, not the case....I am somewhat disappointed in him for not wanting to explain. Damn him !

[Trinny]

Roughquest, do you want to chat one night about all this on msg one night?

[Roughquest]

LOL Trinny - yes for sure honey, MSG ? MSN, lol..... my addy is [email protected] xxx