Ex-husband refuses to give Ex-directory number for emergency contact

[MAMA KIN]

My ex-husband refuses to give me his home number so that I have an alternate number to call him in an emergency on when he has our child. Am I being unreasonable to ask for this? and legally can he withold this number?

[B00]

Can't you just have his mobile number? If you have that there's no reason for you to have his home number.

[MAMA KIN]

Not really, not when he took a year to tell me his new address - his child had to write to his work address - and he has both my mobile and home number. When he was told that we were moving his first question was "Are we going to keep the home number? " as he doesn't want to talk to his child on my mobile as it costs to much money - but expect us to call him on his! Hardly fair is it? It makes me wonder what he is hiding and makes me nervous when he has her - a fact he knows and plays on. If I was as elusive about contact details as he is, he would be the first to complain about it.

[herbie]

How old is the child?

[daffy654]

Is this court ordered access?
I would be refusing to allow my child to visit him unless I was given the home telephone number,his mobile battery might go or not have a signal then you would be unable to contact him or your child at all. Try asking at Citizens Advice whether there is a law that covers this situation.

[B00]

I'm obviously in the minority here, lol, but I don't see why you should have his home number if he's ex directory and he doesn't want to give it to you. You have his mobile number and I'm presuming you know where he lives and exactly where your child is when with him.

[pingu97]

Boo, do u have children? i know if it was me with my daughter i'd feel exactly the same mama, i agree try citizens advice.

[B00]

Yes Pingu I did. When Teen Boo was younger and she stayed at her dad's for the weekend etc, I never had his home number nor he mine (both ex dir). We both had each others mobile numbers and we knew where the other one lived. If an emergency cropped up we either rang the mobile or went directly to the house.

[lizzydrippin]

I agree with Boo, I think you're being unreasonable. Im not sure what kind of emergency you mean anyway? If you want the number for when the child is with him then I can't see why, if there was an emergency concerning the child then wouldn't he be phoning you? As long as you have a way of contacting him, I think you're nit-picking.

[webstar]

Change your home number and change your mobile number, but text him on your old number and say something like
"last text, this number in no longer in use"
Serves him right
If he cares that much he will call at your home and speak to your daughter face to face
he's a coward.
If he has your email address, just tell him to contact you that way in future.

[LittleMissxx]

I dont have my ex's either. And when he has her he turns his bloody mobile off so i cant contact her. I wont rise to his petitness. I have moved house now and my home numbers changed , he was the first to ask for it !!! Men and thier mind games. In this instance i havent given it to him because he used to ring me at stupid times of the night after he had a few.

[4GS]

As a man who is divorced can I say that I think your husband is being unreasonable? what if your daughter (god forbid) was in an accident and you needed to contact his fast?

[Reverandfunk]

What does he think you are going to do with his number?

Ring him in the middle of the night and try to win him back?

he sounds like a first class ******, could you restrict his access to the child although by the sound of it he aint much of a father anyway

[Ethel]

The mobile phone number is all you need.

A text is not expensive - and in an emergency you could phone the mobile, give brief details and end the call. Then he can pay to call you back.

Maybe he doesn't have a landline. I don't.

[Reverandfunk]

What about if he doesnt charge his mobile? he sopunds like the type.

When a childs welfare is at stake i don't think that asking for a landline is out of order.

[Beanmistriss]

I agree with Boo too, I think you're being unreasonable. You have his mobile, you can get in touch with him. You're more likely to get him on a mobile than a home phone in an emergency. It seems a shame on your child if you did what others have suggested and "restricted access". She's not something for you to use to get your own way, shes a child.

[Reverandfunk]

Sounds like such a nice father, saying it costs too much to talk to his child on a mobile, the child having to write to his work address!!!

Any normal bloke would think yes have my landline because you can make cheap or free calls to dad and it will be cheaper for dad to ring you at home.

Am I missing the point lol

[Reverandfunk]

As a father legend do you think it sounds like he really gives a toss?