access for my daughters

[exwife]

does anyone know if i can force my ex husband to have our daughters regular as at the minute its hardly ever and i dont think its fair on my girls who are 15 and 3 i want him to have them every other weekend or every third weekend, is that too much to ask?

[ojread2]

The 15 year old can choose to see him when she wants too surely?

As for the 3 year old - it is possible to take your ex to court to arrange access, but if he doesn't want to see her then you can't force the issue, sadly for her

Doe she give a reason for not having regualr contact?

[ruby27]

No you can not.
Contact is a right for a child, and the Court will uphold this right if it is in the child's best interests. But, if a parent chooses not to play an active part in their child's life they can not be made to do so. This isn't fair on children and its hard on the primary carer.
Sad that he is going to miss out on a part of his children's life that he will never be able to regain - his loss

[megal]

Hey there does he pay CSA? Most dads want to see there kids when they have to pay for them.
Trying to make him see them might work out bad for them.
I don't think your asking to much, but yes maybe take him to court to arrange access and that way the judge will see you want him to have access and grant it often.
I do understand I am in the same posititon, my ex has a girl friend who hates my son and I hate the way she treats him. I am trying to get my ex to understand that just because my son is only 9 doesn't mean his feelings don't matter.
Good luck, see a solicitor ASAP!!
K x

[Pippa68]

''Most dads want to see their kids when they have to pay for them''

Errrr...really? there are a lot of dads who consider that paying maintenance is where their responsibility starts and finishes. My two children know their dad pays maintenance, but his attitude towards them stinks. I would much rather the dad was honest about it rather than being forced into contact with the kids simply because he pays.

There are also mothers who deny contact because the father doesn't pay maintenance...equally wrong!

[HJT40]

No its not too much to ask, but then it is not an ideal world. I left my daughters dad to get used to the idea and now he has her every friday night.

I went through periods when he could not see her or she did not want to see him. It has taken time but one way or the other it got there.

I looked on it that although I couldn't go out my daughter learned that she had one parent that she could rely on to be there for her and I think I got the best side of the bargain.

[exwife]

he does pay csa i had to fight for that though, he used to be the best dad ever but now cant be bothered, i dont want him to have them so i can go out or anything like that, i just want him to be part of my girls lives, my 15 year old does want to see him and feels hurt about it, she feels replaced as he is with a woman who has a daughter thats 13, he left 2 and a half years ago, his excuse for not having them is that he needs to work saturdays which i know he doesnt work every saturday he works about one in three

[Bohne]

Not sure...

Would it be fair on your girls to force them onto someone who does not want them?
Maybe they are better off with just you, even though it might be hard on you, doing everything on your own 24/7.

Some day he might realise what he has been missing out on.