Divorce fo adultery

[ath007]

I have had a verbal admission from the gentleman my wife had an affair with.After many difficult months we seperated and i left the family home after a fight.She is now divorcing me for unreasonable behaviour and has lied on her divorce petition with the reasons she is petitioning. I wish to counter petition and get her for adultery...how can i get the gentleman to admit, get him to court..how.? I have a solicitor but he just wants things to run and let her have her way for unreasonable behaviour..feel out on a limb of sorts.

[redcrx]

Im amazed that your solicitor is advising you not to drag the process out. After all, its usually the solicitors that make the most money out of messy divorces.

[mountainboo]

Perhaps you should contemplate seeking legal help from a different solicitor. They are mean't to act in you (the clients) best interests. I'm sure there is some archaic law regarding a spouse having an affair that allows the innocent party (in this case you the husband) to sue the parties responsible for damages. Perhaps you could look into it.

[CathH]

I understand why your solicitor is advising you this way. If your wife isn't admitting the adultery, you need evidence.
My divorce was similar and my ex also put unreasonable behaviour. I wanted to counter petition and had no evidence, so in the end as it was obvious that he wanted the divorce, I decided that the divorce could go ahead, although I made it plain that I disagreed with his reasons for it, but would not contest it and this was sent in a letter to him.

It is a very difficult time, and you have been hurt, and want to hurt back - but believe me, you will just drag it out by counter petitioning and it will make no difference to the outcome.

[ath007]

thanks for that everyone. Need time to think!!

Regards

ath007