It's a gift (or is it)?

[4GS]

Just looked at the survey thingy down
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there, and it was asking whether the girl should give back the ring when an engagement is broken off.

I say the giving of a ring is a gift so the girl should keep it, I mean would the man ask for all birthday, Christmas gifts he's given while they were together?

What do you think, keep, or, return?
Or, have you ever been in this scenario? what did you do?

[Josie83]

Keep, but would probably have to go find it again after throwing it in his face! lol

[funnygirl]

The ring is a token of promise to marry.

If the marriage does not take place then the ring is returned.

It all depends on the good nature of the fiance as to whether he wants the ring back.

[redcrx]

surely its a gift. But then If i split with a fiance and he asked for the ring back i doubt id be that bothered about returning it.

Ive still got my engagement and wedding ring from my marriage (now divorced) but i dont wear them so they just have a bit of sentimental value and no use.

[spaced]

if I split with someone, the last thing I would want was a reminder of their evil. Keep the ring and either pawn or ebay it.

At least make some profit.

LOL at funnygirls comment "The ring is a token of promise to marry.

If the marriage does not take place then the ring is returned" what contract is this stated lol, is this written on the back of H Samuel's receipt?

[funnygirl]

I believe it is an old law!

I'm sure I read it somewhere!!

[harryshaw]

same space
pawn it then have
pi** up on the proceeds lol hahahah

[spaced]

the drinks are on me!!!!

[jackthehat]

I believe that Funygirl is correct although I'm not sure that it is a 'law' as such, just more of a convention.

An 'engagement' used to be seen as a contract and one demonstrated to family and friends, and therefore the ring was a physical token to represent the intent of both parties to be bound by this 'contract' to marry.

Should the engagement end, by whichever party, the contract was broken and therefore the ring was to be returned, again as a physical demonstration of the end of this contract to marry.

[Jillius]

Depends who broke off the engagement. If he did then I wouldn't give the ring back. If I did, then i would feel obliged to.

[donn1901]

he certainly wouldn't get my ring back i chose it its mine! why would a man want the ring back? to pass the next missus? would you want a so called seconds ring?
the ladys choice i woul rathre sell it than pass it back lol

[daffy654]

If it was a ring bought for the engagement then I think the woman should keep it,if however its a family heirloom from his side of the family it should be returned to him.

[Wop/tpo]

Never had this experience, but would think ring should only be returned if engagement broken off by the girl.