family values

[mrrsjn1919]

We all have young families, teenagers,girls and boys we want to protect.
As a parent, it is our responsibility to teach and take of our family.
Having teenage gilrs these days, many do not value their viginity, nor do they know how precious and valuable their viginity is.
Many are growing up so fast.
I remember when I was sixteen, I had to grow up very fast, I was forced to turn into an adult to early.
The pressure on young people these days is very heavy.
How can parents help their young ones?

[redcrx]

they help by talking to them, explaining the possible outcomes of trying to grow up too fast.

You cant stop a teenager losing their virginity but you can explain to them what it can lead to and how to be safe if thats what they choose.

can i just ask whats "valuble" about it?

and please give them some credit, many are sensible enough to decide when its right for them.

[jake-the-peg]

They can help by not trying to impose their own particular moral code on them but rather helping them to feel comfortable with their own view.

It's often especially hard when you have regrets in your own life to let them go down similar routes but it's all part of letting go

[snow.maiden]

I've already discussed sex with my eldest son, because once he started asking questions, I knew it was the right time. I put it in a nice way, and there was no embarrassment on either side. Said, and forgotten about until he wants to know more. I think there's too much emphasis on sex these days, and children grow up fast because they're not given enough time to be the children that they are. Ours play. We interact with them and show a great deal of love and support. They're not out on the streets until 11 o'clock at night, with us not knowing their friends, or what they're getting up to, and they're growing up sensible and well adjusted. They have friends of both sexes, & when the time comes, they'll hopefully deal with sexual issues in the way that we've guided. This includes having respect for other people, and having been told about the emotions involved.

[McNoodle]

IanLawlessex - I assume you haven't got any children?

[redcrx]

IANLAWLESS, i was never told about sex in graphic detail, and yet i didnt lose my virginity until i was engaged and was certainly in now rush to go out and experience everything as soon as i could.

not having the facts does not cause a teenager or young adult to rush to see what its all about.

Being graphic and blunt with advice could backfire on you when you have children. Plus you may realise that your mum was doing what she thought was right

[mrrsjn1919]

I respect any young person who do want to wait until they meet the right person. We are living in a "Try before you buy". system and everyone is far too eager to give it up to the first bloke they meet. Rather than wait for their Prince they give it up too easy. Is sex so good that no one is willing to wait? Sorry , I hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toe! Then again, you can't alway be sure there are the right person.