husbands

[shyblond]

i have been with my fella 4 6 years now and he has asked me if i would contemplate going to a swinging party. Our sex life isnt exactly great. What do you think. Does it ruin a relationship?

[joggerjayne]

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(No, seriously ... don't)

[gonzo00]

WHAT?....jj you suprise us!
go for it girl...it might very well ruin your relationship but think of all the new sexy friends you'll have...and by the sounds of it,it'll be a lot more fun than you're havin with this guy!

[cazzz1975]

is that what you imagined jj to say gonzo?? ^

[gonzo00]

lol..i thought brighton was one big swingers party! ;)

[cazzz1975]

I will admit gonzo, I was a bit surprised as well

[unhappychick]

JNO:- Not an unhappy chick anymore, wished I could remove the "un" from my username, but sadly cant lol!

[gonzo00]

i'd just like to point out that i have NO experience of swinging parties,dogging,voyerism or any other such deviant behaviour.......DAMN!

[mirela]

what is voyerism?

[gonzo00]

a voyeur is a person who likes to watch...well you know what!

[mirela]

oh, dogging is pretty common, shyblond may could try something like that.
same like most people, i wont never consider sharing my partner with others. i read from magazin how swinging party destroyed many relationships.

[mightyWBA]

Swinging is usually for couples who have a very active sex life and have a liberal attitude towards sex.
You stated that your sex life isnt the best so I don't think swinging would help.
Sort your own nuptuals out first before trying it.

By the way I don't trust anybody in green anymore,this site is riddled with loonies.
If you are genuine,which I doubt,sorry.

[joggerjayne]

Okay, look ...

1. I do flirt a lot, because it's fun (especially when I'm p*ssed). But, if the other person is attached, I would only do it if the other half was there, so that it was fun, and not sneaky.

2. I have had a couple of "encounters" with two of my friends when we were all a bit trolleyed BUT that was after I had stopped seeing Pencil Dick (and as Thing1 and Thing2 are also both girls, I'm not sure that it counts anyway, but let's not go there tonight).

3. If I am in a relationship I am one hundred per cent loyal. Okay, you don't know me (winebuyer does, but not much), but all my friends know that for all my joking, when the chips are down, I am fiercely loyal, both to my friends and yes, even to Pencil Dick (when we were still together).

The bottom line is ... I know where to draw the line.

Flirt, have fun, enjoy life ... but don't ever cross the line.

Sharing yourself with another man is the wrong side of the line.

sits back and takes a deep breath

[mirela]

nice one, jogger

[gonzo00]

CALM DOWN DEAR! we was only havin a larf!

[joggerjayne]

Okay gonzo,

... but I feel strongly about this.

(you don't say!!)

Relationships can be fragile (I should know) and shyblond needs telling in no uncertain terms not to risk harming hers.

I'm more mischievous than a lot of girls, but I would never contemplate doing something stupid like this.

[gonzo00]

but don't you think that shyblond's relationship is dead anyway..i mean if the sexlife is crap and he's asking her to go to swinging parties,do you think this is a relationship worth hanging on to?

[888sally888]

I agree gonzo - the relationship sounded dead and is def dead now he has suggested this (in my opinion).

[joggerjayne]

If it has to be over (which is sad) then take a deep breath and prepare to move on.

If there is any hope of saving it, then a bit of swinging isn't the wat to do it.

Like jno said on the previous page, swinging night work for a couple who were cast-iron confident already (although I think the idea is gross), but surely not for a couple with a fragile hold on their relationship.


Look, I bet we've all wondered what it would be like to shag two blokes (or more) at the same time (and men sure as heck fantasize about having a bed full of girls), but maybe it's best left as just that - a fantasy.

Do you know the Keats poem, Ode On A Grecian Urn? It says that there is a delicious pleasure in pursuing something that you desire, which can turn to disappointment if you actually get it for real.

[Ice.Maiden]

I agree with Jayne - hi hun - but if shyblond's been with her partner for 46 years......hell, let them have a bit of fun!!!! just joking, SB. x

[Lakitu]

A swinging party is a bit different to inviting a 3rd party into it, isn't it?

Without going into too much detail, I have been the third party and the couple are still together and happy...they were always stable though.