love life

[linzi321]

i been with my fella for 4years we have a great realationship sunday to friday come a saturday night we fight like cat and dog because 2 years ago i found out he been texig a girl behind my back nothing happened betwwen them so they say but tnight he told me he was going out i started and we had a fight but he puched nd kicked me he told me he dosnt love me anymore and hasnt loved me for a year do you thnk he meant it or was saying it out of anger i didnt walk away i stayed and fought with him more and he went out but i havent heard off him please someone help i love him to bits but cant take much more

[shaking]

let him go any man who punches a woman is a coward, you are well rid of him believe me.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i am afraid your onto a loser here linzi.
I dont understand how he can like you if he hits you and kicks you. No matter what a woman does, he should walk away, rather than get physical.
I think you need to get out now before he does you real damage.
The fact that you cant trust him going out, means you have never really got over the texting thing. It will always be brought up every time you argue.
Your just better off getting ready to plan your life without him...

[linzi321]

yeah i guess your right but like i said sunday to friday we are great im frightened im going to be lost without him

[shaking]

only for a short while linzi321, there are plenty more fish in the sea even if the salmon are all taken

[MrBen5]

You will only be lost without nhim for a while, but once your over him, you wont regret a thing.
You will see how easier and less stressful life is without him.
It wont be doing your health any good putting up with someone like that.
Its not as bad as you think you know getting out of a violent realtionship. A lot of women on here have probably been through it, and suffered hardship for a little while, but i reckon are glad in the long run...

[shaking]

a violent relationship is a no no, please have more respect for yourself, you deserve better.

[linzi321]

its not a violent realationship hes never did anythin g like ths beore thats what frightens me i need to stop being at his beck and call and get a life without him right

[shaking]

you have just answered your own question, stop being a door mat.

[linzi321]

yep your right from this day on i promise to never ever speak to the guy . i can do better but for now just going to have fun . thanks guys

[MrBen5]

If you want some fun linzi, let me know :)

[shaking]

well done linzii321 you won't regret it. well rid.

[Velvetee]

So you think you have a great relationship with a "man" who punches and kicks you.

I think you need to get some self esteem. I can't believe you love someone who treats you like this. Surely you must have an inkling that you are worth more. You need to get this man out of your life as you obviously know you cannot trust him.

And yes, he probably meant it. If he loved you, he wouldn't use violence on you.

[Le Chat]

Hi Linzi. Just to add to this. This is the first time he's hit you but you know, it won't be the last ...this is just the beginning. The seal has been broken now. He's been found out! Staying with him is giving him the thumbs up to continue this type of behaviour and you will create a legacy not just for yourself but for women he has relationships with in the future.
Oh and remember, even Hitler and Mengele were 'nice blokes' when they weren't murdering thousands of innocents.

[mandimoo]

i was arguing with my ex on his driveway one time, he was telling me to basically 'go away', i refused and kept arguing. i suspected he was seeing someone else. he was getting more and more agitated, eventually he pushed me to the ground, grazed my hand quite badly and dislocated my finger. i got into my car and drove off sobbing, to see the woman i suspected him of seeing turn into the road. he admitted it in the end. he obvioulsy pushed me because he knew she would turn up any moment. i feel sad when i think of it, but only cos i wasted so much time with him.
i really hope you start to feel better soon xx

[stonekicker]

as you have pointed out that saturdays always go a bit wrong - i can only assume the pair of you are drinking and then rowing and then last saturday he hit you. the solution is smple as you have identified the problem - stop drinking if you can't handle it yourself or deal with him when he's drunk.

you need to make a decision between going out on a saturday night, getting p!55ed with all your mates and fighting. you are behaving like a sheep - following others because you have no sense of personal direction, decision or standards. talk to him about it and see if he agrees and if he does, stay with him - sober on saturdays (the pair of you) - and have a more successful chance of a normal decent relationship, or carry on with your chavvy saturday nights out, continue being treated like sh!t, argue loads and potentially get into the routine of a battered pertner.

make your choice now and stick to it - and his behaviour will also affect what you do. if he chooses to continue drinking and behaving like an @rse, then you may have to decide on your own to leave him and live a more peaceful life.