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How do I go about searching for my friends biological Mother?

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sssg4 | 12:52 Mon 14th Jul 2008 | Family & Relationships
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Hi,

My best friend was adopted at birth and has recently asked me if I could help her find out about her birth Mother as she isn't PC literate and doesn't have access to the net.

Where is the best place to start? She has given me her parents names and the hospital where she was born but I haven't a clue wheer to start looking.

I would love to help her find out about her biological parents so any advice would be greateful!

Thank you in advance
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it might not be best to do it online - has she considered actually doing legwork? Getting in touch with the social cervices dept near where she was born? Can she ask her adoptive parents what they know?
I contacted the Salvation Army to try to help find my Husbands real father - they were unable to help me directly as it had to be him who wrote to them - but it may be a good starting point for your friend... That or she needs to contact the adoption agency!
The plain truth of the matter is: Your friend's biological mother may not wish her identity to be made known at this stage. Your friend's best course of action in these circumstances is to apply through the Adoption Agency which carried out the legal process with her now adoptive parents. If that fails then I am afraid there is nothing more that she can do (legally).
If you go to the National Archives site (found through a Search Engine) it will lead you through to Adoptions and obtaining information. Normally this leads to an interview with a representative of the Adoptions Agency who will deal with it. They will probably contact the birth Mother to see if she wishes to have her details known. (Obviously she may have a new family who no nothing about a previous child.)
Or, a friend of mine got her original birth certificate, and then checked on the voter's list at the library to see whether anyone of the slightly unusual name still lived in the area. This person, who turned out to be her natural birth mother'd recently left, but after just 8 hours from start to finish, my friend'd found where she now lives. She then wrote to her mother, saying that she'd like to meet her, but'd understand if the reply was negative. Luckily her mum was delighted and relieved to hear from her long-lost daughter, and they've now met up several times.

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