Nervy parent?

[jonah hart]

My daughter is going on a school trip tmoro...I hate it,It makes me really nervous and i no ill feel panicky all day..I no this isant normal but just woundered if any other parent feels like this and what do you do ??

[lil75]

Yes, I feel like it a lot, my son went swimming with the school this morning, and I dread the phone ringing in between 9 and 10 am, just incase something horrible has happened...its ridiculous I know, but I love him dearly and just want him to be safe...the only thing I do, is keep myself busy, if I sat there dwelling on it I would be thinking allsorts and end up in a state....so your not alone!

[lil75]

Forgot to say, 9 till 10am is when he goes swimming!

[jonah hart]

Thankyou lil75...I hate feeling this way but like you say its because we love them so much...She,ll be on her trip 9a.m till 3.30 p.m so makes for along day..Will try and keep busy and imagine thats she,s just at school like an ordinary day,Iv told her she as to take her phone and hide it in her pocket just in case...Oh woe is us parents x

[mrs_overall]

My youngest (age 8 but I still think of him as my baby) is going on a 3 day school trip soon. I'm having nightmares about it.
I know I'm being ridiculous - I let the eldest two go on the same trip when they were younger and I didn't bat an eyelid.

[lil75]

No problem...nice to know im not alone!!! lol

It is a terrible feeling, but try and imagine yourself as a child on a trip, I did this this morning when I was worrying about my son...thought of what I was like when I went swimming with the school and I was perfectly fine when I used to go, I knew what I was capable of and what I wasnt, and was aware of dangers, as are probably our children...where is she off to on her trip...anywhere nice?

[andy-hughes]

Concern for your child is perfecly normal - I worry about all my girls driving in this seriously icy weather, which none of them have experienced - and they are 33, 31, and nearly 20!

What you have to do is not let it become an obsession.

I know you know that you cannot protect your daughter for ever, she is going to make mistakes, get hurt physically, emotionally and spiritually, which is all part of life's journey.

You must learn to support without smothering, and trust your daughter to remember all the safety advice you have given her.

Remember, while you fret and worry, she is busy having a wonderful time, so don;t beat yourself up all day, you need to keep a sense of proportion or you will never be happy letting her find her independence.

Parenthood - who'd have it!

I would - and so would you, it's wonderful!!!

[jonah hart]

Some sort of police saftey thing so it,ll be good for her to learn about..I do feel a bit better just knowing im not on me own with these feelings so thankyou again x

[jonah hart]

Thanks andy that was lovely x

[lil75]

A police safety thing...oh well she'll be fine!!! Will learn a lot from it....she couldnt really be anywhere safer lol!!! Im sure she will be fine, just relax in the knowledge that your not alone ;o) x

[zzxxee]

it just proves what a lovely parent you are , i worry about my kids especially my baby shes nearly 12 lol. it is her first year in senior school and you worry is she settling in does she have friends? is she being picked on? its normal to worry just dont let it become an obsession x

[tigwig]

Yes I worry loads to the extent where it keeps me awake at night!
My 4 yr old went on a trip to the theatre this afternoon so she was at school all day and had lunch there for the first time ever! She was fine though and I'm sure your daughter will be too.
You just think all sorts of things don't you?

[daffy654]

My son went on a 5 day trip to Normandy with his primary school two years ago.I worried the whole time he was away. I suppose I was lucky though that as he has special needs he had his SSA with him constantly so he was monitored a lot more closely than the rest of the group.
He thoroughly enjoyed the trip and was able to visit the War museum and cemetery,they also saw the Bayeaux Tapestry.

[lil75]

How did the trip go..did she enjoy it? x

[jonah hart]

How lovely of you to remember lil75..She had a fab time really enjoyed it,And i wernt as bad as i thought i would be i kept busy like you advised and al though it was a long day i actually stayed sane yahhh.Thankyou again xx

[bronnie-d]

hehe, i understand its perfectly normal for a parent to worry for their children. and clearly many do . But can i ask do your children know how much you worry.
My mother is a worrier, and alot of the time it drives me mad ! honestly ! hehe.
She would say to me when i would walk to school the whole dont talk to strangers, chek the road 3 times, go straight there, talk everyday ! even today she does it !! haha.

The thing is, and research in my history coarse has proved that half the things people worry and think may happen dont. Just because its happend to one or maybe tow children within 3 miles of you doesnt mean it will ahppen to you or your child :) lol

but yeah its great to worry but make sure its not too much or you could drive your kid nuts !!!!!!

and just to say, when my mums worries finaly made me snap i decided to leave the house for 3 days without phoning . i just left a note saying i had gone out see you soon :P:) xx she did learn to give me space though hahahha :) i know harsh

[Ice.Maiden]

On the other side of the coin though bronnie - my own mum used to warn us all the time about various dangers. I've put myself in some pretty hairy situations when i was younger, but always had this sense of self-preservation - thanks to my mum, I think.

[zxyvixy]

its a parents prerogative to worry the first time my daughters went on school trips i worried myself silly. they were having a great time.the trick is not to wrap them in cotton wool
and let them have some Independence within reason.and try not to worry.

[lil75]

Ahh bless ya...sometimes I think it helps just to share your anxieties and realise that your not alone and that a lot of us feel the same! Glad your daughter had a good time and you kept your sanity!!! x

[joko]

my dad stopped us from going on all sorts of school trips, - including longer ones like camping etc...he made us miss out on all sorts of things simply because he is a worrier...i understand that it is out of concern, but you cannot wrap your kids in cotton wool...i resented it everytime