Wedding blues...............

[HJT40]

I am getting married next month to the love of my life, in 39 days to be exact. My mum died 11 years ago this year and she will be sadly missed from the celebrations.

Last week my dad went for a colonoscopy and a mass was found. He has scans on wednesday and I am worried. Yesterday he hinted that depending on what it is and what else they find he may not be able to be at my wedding because of treatment.

My Uncle is recovering from a stroke and my aunt has just been told her breast cancer has come back.

My better half's brother has uninvited himself and said that he will go to his brothers next wedding ... and continues to make our lives uncomfortable in any way he can reasonably get away with.

I don't want to cancel the wedding, but I so hope my dad is with me to share the day.

Hmmmm, head is spinning, stomach is churning, eyes are welling up - again!

[LFCFan5]

Hiya, Arh poor you, organising a wedding is stressfull enough isnt it. I hope your dad is ok & i am sure he will be there on your big day, is he giving you away? As for your future brother in law, just leave him too it, he doesnt sound worth it. Sending hugs to you.

[gossipgirl]

weddings are stressful in themselves let alone with the added pressure your feeling, i really feel for you. Im sure your dad will be there if he can to give you away and im sure that if the hospital knew the situation they may be able to work around it. good luck for your big day xxx

[HJT40]

Thank you both for your kind words which are very much appreciated today. I will wait and see what the hospital have to say and hope that the treatment will still allow him to come.

One thing happened today to make me laugh, my husband to be has just been told he is suffering from groin strain! I shall do my best to make sure he is recovered from that in time!

[yogasun]

Hi HJT
I know that weddings can be stressful as our son gets married in less than three weeks!
Just to reassure you (I hope) one of my Yoga students was diagnosed with bowel cancer not long before her daughter was married. The hospital 'worked round' the wedding day and she is now recovering brilliantly from the op. with a good prognosis.
Good luck to you both
xx

[HJT40]

Thank you Yogasun,

I have hope that they will and I hope you have a wonderful day when you son gets married.

H

[zzxxee]

have a wonderfull wedding i hope it all goes the way you want it to xx

[LFCFan5]

Hiya

I hope your dads scans go ok 2day, thinking of you. xx

[HJT40]

Thank you for thinking of me, what a lovely thing to do. LFCFan5 (good team if I say so myself!)

He is back from the scans, but won't find out anything until Friday when he goes to the Doctors. I guess it's best to find out what they are going to do at the same time as getting the results. I am trying to optimistic about the treatment he may need.

xx

[LFCFan5]

Hi

I will keep my fingers crossed for you both, let me know wont you when you can.

Take care xx

[Schutzengel]

Will be thinking about you and your Dad tomorrow, and hoping you get some positive news. Good luck with the wedding.

[HJT40]

Well I have spoken to my Dad who says the Doctor told him that he is a lucky boy and it is to do with polyps! He still has to wait for the scan results next week, but the Dr doesn't seem to think that there should be any problems.

Tears have been rolling down my face and I feel so dizzy, if I didn't love him so much I would give him a proper telling off for worrying me.

A whole weight has been lifted and I can now look forward to getting married with my dad being there.

I realise I am the lucky one and how different if coud have been. Thank you so much for caring even though you don't really know me.

Have a wonderful weekend, you really have made a difference,


Hazel
xx

[LFCFan5]

Hiya

I am so glad for you both, you can breathe a sigh of releif & enjoy the preparations for your wedding & enjoy your special day.

Really am happy for you, have a gud wkend & takecare xxx

[yogasun]

Hi Hazel

Phew! What a relief for you, that's great news. Have a super day!
xx

[Mish-Elle]

Awww im soo sorry to hear it sounds like everything n everyone is signalling the wedding shouldnt happen...

Hes the love of ur life and think of it as one of those nite wen uv been invited out but not been in the mood but its ended up been a cracking good nite!

Dont cancel the wedding hunni! take a photo of ur father with u so u feel he is ther or maybe try to set a website up so he cud watch sum1 recording ur wedding then he wudnt hav to miss it.
As for ur Aunti n Uncle im sure they'll try ther best to *** thers time yet so they mite be okay to go if not maybe arrange to see then a few nites b4 wedding im sure they'll send ther love n congrats n u mite feel abit better.
And for his brother, well its probably best he isnt there if hes acting like that n why shud u feel bad about how stupid hes been, hes only trying to spoil it for u n dont let him keep your head high girl down let em spoil the best day of ur life. Im sure more ppl will be happy for u then not aspecailly ur father! all the best x-x

[HJT40]

Sorry, bad news. Just had a phone call from my Dad to say that he has been told that despite what he had previously been told he has cancer of the bowel.

[LFCFan5]

Arh, im sorry to hear that hun. What treatment are they going to give him? I knew someone who had cancer of the bowel, he had an op, had a colostomy bag for a bit & is on the road to recovery. Keep positive. xx

[HJT40]

Thanks LFC.

I am going to see the consultant with him on Friday. Looks like we will have to cancel our honeymoon as he was due to look after my 14 year old whilst we went away. Still it's better to know that he is ok.

I think they are going for the same sort of treatment, removal and then a bag, I suppose it just depends how soon they do it.

[LFCFan5]

Hiya

Dont worry about your honeymoon, that will come hun.Will keep my fingers crossed for you all.

Keep in touch xx

[HJT40]

Hi,

Went to see the consultant with my dad last week. He has two swollen lymph nodes and will be having 5 days radiotherapy prior to having the cancer removed on the 29th July. So this means that he will be having the radiotherapy on the morning of the wedding - the nurse is going to fit him in nice and early so that he can still come to the wedding.

He has told us to still go away and, with a bit of juggling with child and animals, we are going. With a little bit of trepidation being so far away whilst the operation is happening.

Two weeks to go and I am finally starting to look forward to the day. I pick my dress up on saturday and we are all going racing tomorrow as a joint stag/hen party.

Fingers crossed all goes as it is meant to from here on in!