I was in a very abusive violent relationship and foolishly turned to drink, the Grandparents took my kids in whilst I went into re-hab. I ditched, drink and my ex. I rather foolishly signed a temp residency order but now the grandparents refuse to ret

[Melanie12345]

[Panic Button]

Be totally honest with yourself, where is the best place for your children to be now?

[CurlyKale]

Please explain,were you the abusive one,or your partner?

[Melanie12345]

100% with me, `the family` are extremely violent, drug addicts etc...I am married, expecting a child, drink free, the kids want to be with me, SS say they should be with me but it just keeps getting adjourned and adjourned. I have left my dark days behind me, but they wont let me or my kids go.

[Melanie12345]

I was beaten black and blue, def not the abuser, the Grandparents are his parents. I would if you would be so kind, just like an answer to my question about wether or not it is an arrestable offence punishable by what..........thank you. Sorry, I find talking about it all very upsetting.

[NoMercy]

Melanie.... don't do anything that will jeopardise the safety of your kids. If your former in-laws have residency and you snatch them, they will only be returned to the in-laws and your case for custody will suffer as a result. Get a solicitor and urge him/her to act fast. Get witness statements, etc. and just sit tight. It will be better for you and your kids in the long run if you don't do anything rash.

[Melanie12345]

As I have said...I have a Solicitor - useless - my children are being harmed by the never ending adjournments - its been 2 years now and its just been adjourned because of stalling tactics for another 6 months. As a mother I have to do what is best for them, ie bring them home. All i would like to know is: A) Is it an arrestable offence and B) what is the punishment? thank you

[CurlyKale]

Mel You went through rehab,came through it ,got yourself clean,
Your in a good position now,so lets hope it all goes well for you

[Melanie12345]

Thank you, but it doesnt look as if anybody honestly knows the answer, goodnight

[NoMercy]

YES it is an arrestable offence, and the ultimate punishment would be you being refused access to your children. Get another brief.... one who will get things moving.. You don't have to stick with the brief you have now. Get tough !!

Get the neighbours of your inlaws on your side... get SS on your side.... get the Police on your side...

Be clever - not rash !

[Melanie12345]

You say it def is, but what law is being broken? I am not putting details on here but as a mother I am failing them by not removing them

[Sandy-Wroe]

If the children are in the legal custody of the grandparents and you 'snatched' them, you'd be in serious trouble. You might be charged with kidnapping. Your actions would be used, by the grandparents, to show that you were irresponsible and not fit to ever have the children with you.
Work through the courts. It may take some time but it's the only sensible way.

[NoMercy]

Melanie... if you snatch your kids, your inlaws will most certainly use that against you. Be smart. Don't risk losing your children for good... Get a decent solicitor who will get things moving ...

[Panic Button]

You see it that way, but others may not.

For instance how do I know that they are not in a good caring loving environment now?

They are people, not belongings. Just grabbing and running is not fair on them.

[sara3]

Melanie, you're going to have to play by the rules here. if you blow it now you'll never be trusted. your kids will understand one day (if they're not old enough now) that you did the best thing for them at the time.

when is the temp residency order up?

[NoMercy]

Is it an Interim Residency Order or a Permanent one?

[Melanie12345]

I am certainly not prepared to disclose details that would identify my children but I can assure you that they are not in the best place for them, I thank everyone for their views but I am not any of the wiser, Goodnight Melanie