how can i get it into my dads head . . .

[mollykins]

. . . that whenever I go on trips with cadets we get joining isntructions the week before we go.

I try explaining it to him and he just gets angry saying 'just get them' 'ask them for them' but I did once before and cadets jsut got annoyed with me then dad got angry with me and said 'right i'm going up there and getting them if you can't be ar55ed.' But mum whose on the commitee explained that often they don't recieve joining instructions from the people organising it until a week before and everyone gets them at the same time. But he's still getting angry saying if I can't be ar55ed he'll go up there himself, which is pointless and he'll jsut embarass us.

What can I do?

[tamborine]

wot do sea cadets do ? Board a boat, sleep in hammocks & sail, in between scrubbing decks.

[supersuezy24]

He could be just worried Molly..

[mollykins]

We do all sorts. On land; meteorology, seamanship, cooking, camping, orienteering, shooting, engineering, radio communications.

And at sea/ on lakes and rivers; scuba diving, sailing, powerboating, canoeing, kayaking, chartwork, swimming, windsurfing, and when we go away or ships like royalist or petchey, with the help of the crew we run the ship. On royalist and the other yachts you climb the rigging to set the sails up and you learn how to navigate and all sorts.

[mollykins]

We know what days we are going and coming back, the flight is at lunch time, all he needs to know is what time to drop me off at the unit (which my mum will probably do) so we can go in the minibus to Norwich

[Bobbisox]

hello SS, nice work kidda :-))

[mollykins]

And i've already packed almost everything, as there's a list of everything you need on their website

[Bobbisox]

there you are then Molly...sorted!
will have to go soon, have fun
bfn

[mollykins]

But that's not good enough for him has to know the exact times and places of everything before it's even been decided, it's rediculous how angry he's getting.

[supersuezy24]

Would it help if you and your mam sat down and spoke to him??

[mollykins]

he won't listen and just gets angry if we try to explain it.

[Mamyalynne]

Well then let him go to Cadets and ask them himself, and stop worrying. He cannot be cross with you if they confirm your account of the facts.

[Dolly1308]

Molly ,you cannot change your father ,no matter what you do or say so the only thing to do is change yourself ,That is ,don't argue with him just come home every day and tell him you've asked but there are no instructions as yet ,do this every day (even if you've not asked ) and he'll get fed up of hearing it .BTW how old are you ? Good Luck.

[mollykins]

16, nearly 17.