how can i get it into my dads head . . .

[mollykins]

. . . that whenever I go on trips with cadets we get joining isntructions the week before we go.

I try explaining it to him and he just gets angry saying 'just get them' 'ask them for them' but I did once before and cadets jsut got annoyed with me then dad got angry with me and said 'right i'm going up there and getting them if you can't be ar55ed.' But mum whose on the commitee explained that often they don't recieve joining instructions from the people organising it until a week before and everyone gets them at the same time. But he's still getting angry saying if I can't be ar55ed he'll go up there himself, which is pointless and he'll jsut embarass us.

What can I do?

[Bobbisox]

Molly, how would your Dad feel if he saw you calling him such names love?

[mollykins]

He calls me worse. And it's not jsut ranting and moaning i'm trying to find an answer, which will stop me moaning.

[tamborine]

tell him if he flaps you wont inform him of activities as he gets 'too worked up.'

[mollykins]

He might realise how unreasonable he is.

[mollykins]

Yeah but then he'd get even more angry for not telling him until i've gone.

[Bobbisox]

I would honestly be mortified if my daughter disrespected me like this Molly

[mollykins]

bobbi, you're not a pudding though.

[Bobbisox]

I could be if I was referred to in such a derogatory manner Molly x

[tamborine]

just tell him to "ask mum".

[mollykins]

She doesn't know either. The night that the instructors recieve the instructions is the same night they are passed onto the cadets.

[Dris]

Some adults are fools and are to their children as well.Not everyone is cut out to be a parent-little tolerance -have seen it myself.
B00's suggestion is best -just let him know on a need to know basis and/or let him make the ass of himself.Bet he wouldnt in front of other adults.

[Bobbisox]

Molly love, ever ending circles are coming to mind, you are back to the beginning again

[B00]

Hey Bobbs, nana's ace ta, and so's Lucas :-)

I duno what you want us to say here Molly, truth is that your dad won't change so you have to put up with it im afraid. If you make the cadets aware that it's all his doing and not yours im sure they'll understand, but again, if they don't, there's nowt you can do about that either.

Stop worrying about things you can't alter.

[Bobbisox]

Oi Haggis,,,mwah and all that kidda ..lol

[tamborine]

anger = blood pressure = heart attack..........give him an aspirin

[mollykins]

he won't take tablets.

Dris, he would.

So noone knows a stubborn person and has found a way of explaining stuff to them?

[B00]

No, get over it, and quickly Molly :-)

[brenda]

Don't mention the trips until Mother has told Dad about them and given him the instructions when they are ready..

[mollykins]

He'll be even more angry then.

[mollykins]

And like i said, he rarely has to do anything for it, or even pay. Most of my trips are heavily subsidised because I do so much fundraising and the rest I pay myself now.