We've all been there, give her what she likes for now and have another go at introducing new stuff in a couple of weeks/months. I am a terribly fussy eat from being force fed stuff I didn't like. If my children didn't like stuff at first, I just reintroduced stuff to them later on. Be prepared for any mess she is going to make. I tended to pre-empt problems. She will learn to use cutlery, just let her get on with it. Seriously, don't worry over the little things, you'll all get there. (We were very 'by the book' on things with boy #1 and now the things are practically feral (joking, but the more relaxed you are the easier it seems to be).