Help!

[fiona_88]

I am 26 years old. I am in a domestic relationship, mentally. I am being totally dragged down the ground. It is getting worse and worse as time goes on and I don't know how much more of it I can take. The only problem is, I literally have NOWHERE to go. I can't go to my mums, or my dads, I have no friends around me who I can stay with as they all live too far away. Can anyone give me some advice as what to do to get emergency accommodation? its that's bad now, that I have packed a bag with my essentials so that if we have another flare up(which is bound to happen again anytime soon), I can just grab my bag, and go. I have a dog too, and I know not many places will allow dogs. I'm in a total rut and I just don't know what to do. I've even thought about just ending everything as I am giving up. HELP

[sandyRoe]

Is there anything here that might help?

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/?gclid=CJL9zsLBir0CFUsUwwodlGAA6Q

[shoota]

Talk to your local Police 'domestic violence' unit. They will have contact numbers for refuges and other agencies that can help you. You should consider getting some of on this on record in case the situation does turn physical.

[mazie]

Really sorry about your predicament fiona.... Have a look at this link especially
Emergency accommodation section

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-violence-survivors-handbook.asp?section=000100010008000100320002

Good luck and get out as soon as you can x

[shoota]

http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/homelessness/emergency_accommodation_if_homeless/womens_refuges

[scorpiojo]

Who owns the property you live in?

[maggiebee]

Is there an appropriate homeless unit near you? Some are run by the local authority so it might be worth a telephone call. Salvation Army or CAB might be other organisations that would help, even with advice. The most important thing is to keep yourself safe.

[shoota]

Contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline – 0808 2000 247

[mccfluff]

some help, re your dog

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/landing_page.asp?section=0001000100130019

good luck and don;t wait till the "next flare up" get help and go now

[fiona_88]

thank u all. I wil have a look at those sites. scorpiojo-its his house.
ive been living with him for just over a year now. been on going for months. I see it on tv with domestic abuse cases, and im like, why don't they just leave them! I thought they were mad!
but im exactly the same! :( I have to go but making that move is so so difficult I just cant bring myself to do it but I know I HAVE to. when its good,its sooo good, but when its bad, its absolutely terrifying! :(

[Purple_Popple]

Didnt you care for his father, thats how you met him? Please leave him...it wont get any better he sounds like someone I was involved in scarily.

[fiona_88]

you are right purple_popple. I did. I know I have to get out of there. but do womens refuges allow dogs?

[murraymints]

Leave..give yourself a life !

[murraymints]

Fiona a dog is not your priority now ..your safety is !!

[scorpiojo]

Thanks for replying, Fiona. Please, please leave. Is there a friend or relative who could look after your dog for a while, if needs be?

[DTCwordfan]

Why can't you go to one of your parents, as you imply that they are apart?

[fiona_88]

I know murraymints. she all I got though and it would kill me if I had to give her away. but I do need to start thinking of me.......

[fiona_88]

no scorpiojo there isn't unfortunately.

[fiona_88]

my dad lives in a one bed flat, my mum and step dad live in a very small house.theres just no room

[ummmm]

Surely sleeping on a sofa would be preferable to living in fear?

[murraymints]

Fi love..you must think about yourself !!...hugs ..wish I was close..you'd be in the car and off !