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90 Yr Old Mum
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Before this virus became bad I had suggested to my 90 yr old mum she came and lived with me and stayed in the annex own room and bathroom and I took her meals to her .
She said no I want to stay in my own flat. I explained we couldn’t visit her but I could drop stuff off outside her door.
She is on her own as she wished for but she is going shopping everyday to the local stores
Not just one store but the bakers butchers fruit shop for her daily shopping i
Have tried to explain to her numerous times to stay in her flat and I will drop stuff off but she said no I want to shop it’s me getting out and I need food.
It’s the only contact I have now a days.
I really don’t know what to do.
Should I just leave her to it and hope she doesn’t catch virus.
I can’t really force her to stay put.
It’s stressing me out.
She has no under lying health issues it’s just her age concerns me.
Thanks
She said no I want to stay in my own flat. I explained we couldn’t visit her but I could drop stuff off outside her door.
She is on her own as she wished for but she is going shopping everyday to the local stores
Not just one store but the bakers butchers fruit shop for her daily shopping i
Have tried to explain to her numerous times to stay in her flat and I will drop stuff off but she said no I want to shop it’s me getting out and I need food.
It’s the only contact I have now a days.
I really don’t know what to do.
Should I just leave her to it and hope she doesn’t catch virus.
I can’t really force her to stay put.
It’s stressing me out.
She has no under lying health issues it’s just her age concerns me.
Thanks
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.If she is fully compus mentis and understands what is going on out there then there is not much you can do but advise. She certainly is of the older generation and providing she understands and remembers to keep to the medically advised guidelines I would let her carry on her routine. If she has no social contact and exercise she would probably welcome a release if not allowed to follow her routine and habits. It's called independence and the older generation still treasure it if they are lucky.
I think stubborn and selfish - or just ignorant or insufficiently informed -is a better description than feisty. But I know a few elderly (and younger) people who feel like that. We had to tell my mum it was dangerous for her to go to social gatherings and busy shops and she could endanger others. Tell her if she must go out she must wear gloves, keeps 2 metres from everyone and not handle cash and should then clean all items of shopping and wash herself fully when she gets home