My serious sex question!

[pingu97]

Please no stupid answers i am serious! been with my hubby for 7 yrs and have a good sex life, the problem is he loves recieving oral sex, ive never been a fan of doing it but since we had our daughter 4 yrs ago have only done it a couple of times, i used to do it loads! When i was preggy i did it & it made me physically sick (as just about everything did at that time!), he still asks me to do it now & i have a little go then stop as 1, i feel sick & 2, I dont really know what im doing, i know i shouldnt feel daft after this long but i do! He's understanding & never pushes it but i really want to do this for him & share in the enjoyment, anyone got any tips or advice which may help, thanks

[redcrx]

relax and only do it if you want to and continue it if youre enjoying it.
There is no point in believing you have to do it, youll not enjoy it and wont get past that sickness experience.

[Ice.Maiden]

I agree with Redcrx, Pingu. You shouldn't have to feel obligated to do anything that you're uncomfortable with - whether it's just to please your husband or to prove that you CAN. I think the matter's more common than people like to let on, as the majority of my friends refuse to give oral sex, for a variety of reasons. If I know so many like this, then there must be plenty more, so you're not alone. However, if you genuinely want to give it another go, ask your husband to guide you and tell you what feels good, but stop when you're ready to.

[pingu97]

Thanks for your advice i dont feel under pressure to do it, well maybe a bit but all from myself none from my hubby at all, he enjoys doing it for me and guess just want to return the favour

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i used to be seeing a woman who was like this. It was frustrating for me, but i put up with it for a while. What was more annoying was that she used to start, then stop after a few minutes.
What your best off doing is this. next time you get tipsy or drunk, try it out then. You will find it much more bearable and will get used to it.
To add though, if you dont try with him, he may go looking elsewhere for sexual fulfilment...

[Ice.Maiden]

You could say that about any sexual act then couldn't you? Me and my husband have no hang-ups, but if either of us didn't like a particular thing, the other wouldn't "go looking" somewhere else, because we have too much love and respect for each other.

[Skreecheeboy]

Get your hands involved sweetheart!

[MrBen5]

Yeah you could ice.maiden, and you can also say and prove that many men do go looking elsewhere when they are not sexually satisfied...

[tufty7]

Well done pingu07, its good to talk..... I wish my wife would come on here and get advice like this ......

[tiggerblue10]

Hi Pingu,

You said he likes receiving oral sex. Does he reciprocate? If he does then he probably feels that you should to it back. If he doesn't then he can't expect you to do it for him.

[China Doll]

Are you trying to deep throat it?! Cause trust me, those porn stars have a talent... As screeche says, get your hand involved! The tip tends to be the most sensitve so you really don't need to try and take the whole thing in one go... Not suprised you'd gag.

If it's the taste you're worried about, well some people swear by making their partner drink a shed load of pineapple juice, personally I don't like pineapple juice but if you've no mind about it then give it a go. Alternatively, do a little research and find something more plesant tasting down there. Also, you don't have to swallow either, there are variations and sometimes a bit of slight of hand doesn't hurt men either. They think you did, you know you didn't and everyone's a winner.

And finally if non of those tips work and you still hate doing it then it may just be something you don't like doing regardless in which case you should both concentrate on what you do like doing.

[REDHEAD24]

this may not help u , but i have never given oral sex and no partner has ever forced me , i would not be able to bring myself to do it , the thought makes me feel sick , just do other things im sure he will understand x

[cymruambyth1]

There are many women who dont like giving oral, many of my friends say it isnt one of their fave things!! I am not saying men are dirty, but obviously it would help if he had just cleaned down there, or you could even do it in the shower, use your hand, alternate between hand and mouth so it makes it easier, they will still be getting enjoyment. Your husband sounds very understanding and I doubt very highly after 7 years of marriage he will be going anywhere else!!