Children without sex � the future?

[AB Asks]

The man who invented the Pill, Professor Djerassi, believes that by 2050 women freezing eggs in their twenties to save until they older will be the norm. Egg freezing technology has advanced greatly over recent years and the option to put off having children until later is readily available. What do you think? Is freezing eggs going against Mother Nature's wishes? Or this a great way for women to have children once they have fulfilled all of their ambitions?

[4getmenot]

I dont think it is fair on the children as their parents would be much older and surely wouldnt be able to do much with them. Its messing with nature

[girlygirl2]

To be honest my life is totally fulfilled having my Daughter at what some people would class as being a young age of 23 - I was 21 when I had her.

However, I can see that this would work out well as some people are more career driven than others or simply just want to have fun and why not?! Afterall, it's their life and you should have the choice of when to have a baby when it suits you.

These women that have worked hard and earnt a lot of money could offer the best materilistic life possible eg Days out, university, driving lessons, cars, weddings, trust fund etc....

As long as they love their child what does it matter how old they are?

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[warpig3]

I guess it depends on what age the woman decides to have a baby at. I am almost 40 and have no kids although I would like to have. If I was given this option in my early twenties I dont think I would have considered it as I would have been too young to look that far into the future, but hey, thats just me, I never really had a plan set out for my life. Perhaps if I had of had a plan then my thinking may have been different.

[4getmenot]

but thats it as long as the child is loved why do they need all the material things. University doesnt matter and a child should learn to pay for their own things or they will never get on in life.

[girlygirl2]

Every Parent will offer the best they possibly can.
If I have a spare �20 I would rather spend it on a day out than on something for me.
Children should be taught the "meaning" of money but if you can afford to give them certain privileges then, why not?
A young adult (18/19years old) would hardly be able to afford University on their own at that age and to turn around and say "Well although I can afford to send you, I think you should learn the meaning of money and save up for it" would be awful.
Also, University DOES matter, where would we get our much needed health professionals and teachers etc from otherwise?!?!

[4getmenot]

You are right it is lovely to be able to have money and treat your children. But I'm just saying if you cant it doesnt matter and makes no difference on a childs upbringing or whether they are loved any less. And yes ww wouldnt have doctors I was just saying just because you cant afford to go to uni doesnt make you any less capable of things

[4getmenot]

What do you reckon AB?

[4getmenot]

what if you lived your life then their was some complication with the eggs or your body couldnt cope at an older age?

[girlygirl2]

Forget I think we misunderstood one another lol!
I never meant if you didnt have money you would be a worse Parent - trust me I dont have 10p at the moment and I still consider myself to be a good Parent... and I love my Daughter more than anyone and anything and would do anything for her. That's something money cant buy.
What I was getting at was if women do decide to wait, then they maybe in a more "fortunate" position to be able to help their children a bit more.
It might stop so many girls rushing into having a baby and let them concentrate on living their life a bit more before creating a baby just because they are worried they wont be able to conceive at a later date.

[4getmenot]

Yer I think we have, I was just trying to say that even though you would love to give your children these things its not what life is about. Material things don�t matter it the love the children get :-)

[Pippa68]

Life is what happens while you are making other plans..that's my philosophy.

Quite often people are finding that by the time they have 'done it all' a baby is the only thing left to do ~ not always a good idea. It is almost as if people think that all the 'good' stuff should come before having a family.

What about having it all after the family have grown up? or experiencing stuff with a young family while you are still young, fit & able?

[girlygirl2]

But just going back to your original answer "I dont think it is fair on the children as their parents would be much older and surely wouldnt be able to do much with them." Even if they were older surely if they love them that's all that matters?

[4getmenot]

and being young enough to enjoy any grandchildren

[4getmenot]

yes and I did change my mind, You are right love is all that matters. But what about that 65 year old who has had a child. How old will that child be when it has to cope with losing its mum.

[Pippa68]

Surely part of loving your children is bringing them up in the standard way...taking them for trips out, long journeys in the car, theme parks, rough & tumble, swimming, bike riding etc etc.

It is ok to think of a 45 year old having a baby, but when you think of a 55 year old raising a 10 year old child or a 60 year old dealing with teenage troubles it can put things into perspective a bit more.

[girlygirl2]

Who says that your children will produce more children? Also, if you have a baby at 23 just so your child can give you grandchildren but they either decide a) not to have children b)they physically can't have children or c) decide to wait and freeze their eggs - will you having children at a young age have been a mistake when you could have waited?

[girlygirl2]

I think their would be an age limit on "defrosting" (lol) your eggs - I think it would probably limited to 50 years old or something......

[Pippa68]

I don't thnk of the grandparent/child aspect at all..as I agree with you there, girlygirl ~ grandchildren are not mapped out for all of us!

My main concern is the child being raised by someone who is old enough to be a grandparent. There are pros and cons, just as there are pros and cons to being a teenage mum. Personally, I wouldn't have contemplated either scenario.

[4getmenot]

no they arent but I'd like to think that if my children had children I would be a young enough grandparent. And Pippa is right about the various activities you can do as you get older. I think if you should choose career or child. I only agree with freezing eggs if you have suffered from certain illnesses cancer etc.

[girlygirl2]

4get don't you think that's a bit unfair though "choose a career or a child" I wouldn't go to work and work so hard if it wasn't for my child.
These women may want to earn lots of money in their "early years" and then stop work all together and spend it with their child when they become pregnant and just live off the money that they have already earnt.
I'm not saying I would freeze my eggs but I certainly wouldn't rule it out, yes it's playing with mother nature but isn't everything we do in our everyday life? Clothes, transport, medicene etc etc none of that is natural but no one would deprive you of it either......