What Do You Think?

[dunnitall]

How would you feel? Granddaughter asked what we could do for my daughters 25th anniversary etc. we decided not a meal with family as daughter wasn't enamoured, so have bought an iPad for them. We don't know what the son in law was going to do, heard nothing more from gdaughter even tho we had bought the iPad To give on behalf of us and the two grandchildren. Heard nothing more. Asked her via Facebook today as teed off not hearing anything, was told s in law sorted something but not told what. We have the iPad and no doubt granddaughter will collect n deliver but other than that nothing..now told that it's all sorted but only because I asked on Facebook. We are really fed up, thought she could have let us know because she wanted to involve us in the first place. Date is near Xmas for anniversary yet we were not informed until I asked today. Are we right in feeling miffed when she instigated it and yet we are still not sure what is happening? Just thought I would see what others think, thanks.

[pixie373]

Sorry, i might be misunderstanding. Have they arranged a meal or party, but not told you?

[China Doll]

I don't really understand the problem; are you cross because you've not been invited to an anniversary party arranged by the in-laws or because grandchild not told you what to wiyh ipad when you get it? Either way, why not just phone your daughter?

[Sqad]

Bloody miffed.

What would we do?

Either keep the iPad or put it on eBay.

Have NOTHING to so with the anniversary.

Make you and your other half the centre of importance for the rest of your retired life.

BUT...you can't do that, so yopu will buckle under and follow family instructions.

[Psybbo]

Sqad, best answer!

[Jeza]

Families, who the blood hell needs them.

[ummmm]

How old is your G'daughter?

[gness]

Goodness, Sqad! You're as hard as I am......actually it's not being hard is it...it's not letting yourself be put upon and treated with little consideration.

Dunnitall....what Sqad would do is almost exactly what I would do if I was excluded from something like this. I would send a bunch of flowers and card and I would spend the ipad dosh on a treat for myself.....☺

[dunnitall]

Hi sorry if I confused you. Anniversary is on my bday, granddaughter wanted to do a meal for their 25th but said too complicated because her mum, my daughter didn't want in laws there. So instead of us paying for that we bought an iPad for them tween us n grandchildren. Nothing heard since, I messaged gdaughter in Facebook today and she tells me her father has sorted a meal and that's that. All we hoped was that we were kept informed but we weren't told a thing until I messaged her on Facebook. Sorry it sounds trivial but we were really fed up knowing that we bought the iPad and told nothing else until I posted on fb. Guess I am just fed up with no contact, sorry to ask really, must be just me/us. Old duffer syndrome I think lol.

[anneasquith]

get off facebook and telephone re arrangements, or just wait to be informed,

[albaqwerty]

'asked her via facebook' ?
Why can't you talk directly to her?

Did the grand=daughter instigate it?
Maybe your daughter and s-in-law just want to have a quiet time to themselves.

[sherrardk]

I don't understand why you can't just ring your daughter, this is how family feuds and petty squabbles start. You are coming across as being very childish. Get off here and phone her up.

[jeffa]

Completely agree with Anne and Alba.

[jeffa]

And sherrardk.

[dunnitall]

Thank you Anne, telephone is difficult as gdaughter lives at home and daughter answers phone and all was sposed to be a surprise. I think it will just be give them the iPad and forget anything else. Trouble is I am in gdaughters bad books it seems cos I am complaining...oh we'll it will all come out in the wash I guess. I love them dearly but feel so left out ATM.

[dunnitall]

Thanks Sierra, childish I am official then ta. Favpcebok becos my gdaughter lives on therre lol. Ta anyway. Silly me being so childish.

[dunnitall]

That should read Sherra!

[Psybbo]

Perhaps there's a surprize awaiting you on your birthday?

[anneasquith]

im sorry you feel left out, id just sit back and wait on any update, kids eh !

[2sp_]

I can understand why you have to contact your granddaughter via Facebook if she still lives at home.

So, is the meal just for your daughter and son-in-law, or is your granddaughter going too?

How old is your granddaughter?

[sherrardk]

Dunnitall - my step dad got re-married last Friday (my mother is dead, I call him dad and view him as my dad). Myself and my twin were effectively not invited to the wedding (his children with my mother and his new wife's children were invited). I wished him well but my twin sister is 'not talking to him', that's how things get out of hand (my sister is also being childish) - life is too short to take umbrage over things that really aren't that important.