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My parents are 80, with bad health problems. My in laws also have bad health issues. They all need time and help, with daily living.
We have a 18 year old son, who has just gone off to uni.
We both work, run a house and have a dog.
I just feel we are pulled from pillar to post. We try and give time to each other, but at times it feels difficult.
Who do you put first? Your parents, your child or your partner?
Any advice, would be really appreciated. Many thanks to everyone!
We have a 18 year old son, who has just gone off to uni.
We both work, run a house and have a dog.
I just feel we are pulled from pillar to post. We try and give time to each other, but at times it feels difficult.
Who do you put first? Your parents, your child or your partner?
Any advice, would be really appreciated. Many thanks to everyone!
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Depends on the help required. Generally I put the person who's need is greatest on any given day first and work from there, but I always keep my own life as a priority because I can't help other people if my own life is out of balance. If I was concerned about elderly relatives managing on a daily basis (like my grandad) then I'd probably speak with social services...
17:33 Mon 10th Dec 2012
Depends on the help required. Generally I put the person who's need is greatest on any given day first and work from there, but I always keep my own life as a priority because I can't help other people if my own life is out of balance. If I was concerned about elderly relatives managing on a daily basis (like my grandad) then I'd probably speak with social services about help that might be on offer, I'd not take it all on myself as I wouldn't consider it practical or managable. Plus I'm not that selfless.
You are doing fine in difficult times. Is there any way you can get extra assistance with the Aged P's? eg a cleaner, a hairdresser, some ready meals delivered...that way you get a breather while still caring.
The lad will be fine, he'll come home with a pile of washing at Christmas then clear off to see 'friends' ie a girl he sleeps with. As he should.
The lad will be fine, he'll come home with a pile of washing at Christmas then clear off to see 'friends' ie a girl he sleeps with. As he should.
sounds like a juggling act with parents and in-laws and then yourselves. son will come back from uni as and when and then he will need your attention.
can parents and in-laws obntain help from anywhere else so that you do not have to bear the full burden? it is important that you find time for yourselves.
hope this helps.
can parents and in-laws obntain help from anywhere else so that you do not have to bear the full burden? it is important that you find time for yourselves.
hope this helps.
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