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Ok this is a hyperthetical question for the guys on here. and please please be honest
Are you all really only after one thing? seriously, i mean are there any men out there that are decent, that wont treat you like dirt and ect. It just seems that from my experience, there arn't!!!
Are you all really only after one thing? seriously, i mean are there any men out there that are decent, that wont treat you like dirt and ect. It just seems that from my experience, there arn't!!!
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Hi Blondie. I'll be honest here, i think most men think about sex a lot. To say they werent after it would be a lie, but to say they are after one thing is also a bit harsh.
I'll certainly be thinking about it when i meet a girl, i think thats just the way we are made. It sounds a bit caveman but i think its just what we are programmed to do. Though i do have good manners and was brought up to show ladies respect.
Its more about the way we men go about things that has obviously upset you. There are right ways and wrong ways to treat a girl. Sounds like from your experience you've not met many gents that know how to treat you right?
I'll certainly be thinking about it when i meet a girl, i think thats just the way we are made. It sounds a bit caveman but i think its just what we are programmed to do. Though i do have good manners and was brought up to show ladies respect.
Its more about the way we men go about things that has obviously upset you. There are right ways and wrong ways to treat a girl. Sounds like from your experience you've not met many gents that know how to treat you right?
there are menwho are just after sex and there are men who arent, although, as said by the lovely blokes on here, it is a part of any relationship and they do tend to think about it a lot. Mind you i do think the same can be said of some women these days too. .
Never give up thinking that Mr right is out there for you blondie, just make sure his first name aint "always"
I do sometimes think it does seem like there are no good uns out there but believe me, there are plenty, its just finding them thats the hard part.;-)
Never give up thinking that Mr right is out there for you blondie, just make sure his first name aint "always"
I do sometimes think it does seem like there are no good uns out there but believe me, there are plenty, its just finding them thats the hard part.;-)
If you treat a woman like an adult she'll act like a child (my ex especially) numerous experiences on that score, I won't suffer such behaviour.
Similarly if a man acts like a child a woman (alot of women) will tend to him constantly (a friend of mine once said "you have to be a little helpless") you bring it on yourselves, often.
I'm an adult I'll tell you the truth (women hate that), I say what I mean (they hate that too), I mean what I say (they hate that even more), I keep my word and I'm punctual (do you see a pattern?). A man though should always be mindful to what he says (I hate you! or your ugly for instance is contemptible) such sillines is unbecoming of a man fit to call himself as such. An even temper and a tempered tongue is the sign of a gentleman, modern women don't want gentleman...
Or do they?
Similarly if a man acts like a child a woman (alot of women) will tend to him constantly (a friend of mine once said "you have to be a little helpless") you bring it on yourselves, often.
I'm an adult I'll tell you the truth (women hate that), I say what I mean (they hate that too), I mean what I say (they hate that even more), I keep my word and I'm punctual (do you see a pattern?). A man though should always be mindful to what he says (I hate you! or your ugly for instance is contemptible) such sillines is unbecoming of a man fit to call himself as such. An even temper and a tempered tongue is the sign of a gentleman, modern women don't want gentleman...
Or do they?
People say love is blind.
a guy cheats on two girls but manages to keep one of them even though both finds out what hes been upto all along. he would prob convinced the girl who hes seeing now that it wil never happen again... but how do u know..? why is this girl stil seeing him? is she scared of being alone even though she stil doesnt trust him 100%or even 99%?? i dont know why all the men who cheats and lies always gets away with it. and always gets what they want. this isnt right at all. they r all @rseholes .
a guy cheats on two girls but manages to keep one of them even though both finds out what hes been upto all along. he would prob convinced the girl who hes seeing now that it wil never happen again... but how do u know..? why is this girl stil seeing him? is she scared of being alone even though she stil doesnt trust him 100%or even 99%?? i dont know why all the men who cheats and lies always gets away with it. and always gets what they want. this isnt right at all. they r all @rseholes .
you know I am fed up with all this crap about men only being after one thing, it is utter rubbish, I am faithfull and honest and never cheated on my wife, I treat her like a princess, why is it always men that are portrayed as *********?, some women would take some beating on that score, there are plenty of good, decent blokes out in the world, and plenty of bad ones and the same goes for women. never give up looking for somebody decent cos they are out there, good luck and take care, Ray
There are good men certainly.
There are good women too.
I think its matching them up thats the problem.
I read that men think of sex every minute of everyday.
So be they bad or good , theyll still think of it.
I think that if you look too hard , then you never find what you truly want.
And just accepting what you get offered isnt a good idea either.
Some men and women settle for mr/mrs right now and end up stuck with them.
Enjoy life , and whats meant for you will come your way.
Lifes a river , youve just got to go where it takes you .
There are good women too.
I think its matching them up thats the problem.
I read that men think of sex every minute of everyday.
So be they bad or good , theyll still think of it.
I think that if you look too hard , then you never find what you truly want.
And just accepting what you get offered isnt a good idea either.
Some men and women settle for mr/mrs right now and end up stuck with them.
Enjoy life , and whats meant for you will come your way.
Lifes a river , youve just got to go where it takes you .
hey Ray!
hope u r coool and wrapped up warm :)
i agree with u Ray, not all men r @rseholes ... i met a really lovely guy last yr in Jan, he was the sweetest nicest guy ive ever met, although he wasnt the type i would normally go for but he was really lovely to me and very caring. we only dated a few times but we agreed to part because we wanted different things.
but apart from that ive not had any luck with men, they either go back to there ex's (cos of a child they have together), uses me or cheats on me!! ive been in two 'kinda'' relationships last year (not at the same time of course!!) one i was ok with one but the other really hurt me badly.
i am pretty scarrred atm but i'll pull through. i just tend to go for the wrong type of men.
Hope you r getting my emails Ray :) chat to u soon
(((( cuddles)))
hope u r coool and wrapped up warm :)
i agree with u Ray, not all men r @rseholes ... i met a really lovely guy last yr in Jan, he was the sweetest nicest guy ive ever met, although he wasnt the type i would normally go for but he was really lovely to me and very caring. we only dated a few times but we agreed to part because we wanted different things.
but apart from that ive not had any luck with men, they either go back to there ex's (cos of a child they have together), uses me or cheats on me!! ive been in two 'kinda'' relationships last year (not at the same time of course!!) one i was ok with one but the other really hurt me badly.
i am pretty scarrred atm but i'll pull through. i just tend to go for the wrong type of men.
Hope you r getting my emails Ray :) chat to u soon
(((( cuddles)))
Cuddle Me. I have thought about that subject with Italiano ALL DAY LONG ! I agree WHOLEHEARTEDLY with the Irish too !
Legend - I am a very good woman but NEVER totally honest, that is not to say that I tell lies, I just simply dont tell men EVERYTHING! lol
123(cant swear on here and say the rest of your user name hun) WOW ! I am IMPRESSED !
Postdog. I dont really blame her and that isnt a critisism hun. I had a boyfriend like that and no matter how much confidence I gave him it wasnt happening (and he DID love me very much) In the end, I was forced to let go of the relationship for the same reason.
Not all men are bad - Oh dont get me going on another Mills and Boons thread with BLT Italy !
Katie. x
Legend - I am a very good woman but NEVER totally honest, that is not to say that I tell lies, I just simply dont tell men EVERYTHING! lol
123(cant swear on here and say the rest of your user name hun) WOW ! I am IMPRESSED !
Postdog. I dont really blame her and that isnt a critisism hun. I had a boyfriend like that and no matter how much confidence I gave him it wasnt happening (and he DID love me very much) In the end, I was forced to let go of the relationship for the same reason.
Not all men are bad - Oh dont get me going on another Mills and Boons thread with BLT Italy !
Katie. x
You need to learn discernment when it comes to choosing whom you date.
Whenever you come up with an all-inclusive negative (all men or all women are only after one thing, etc), the person to look at is you ... not them. People are individuals, and if every single individual you choose has one thing in common ... then you are the one who continually chooses these inappropriate people. YOU are the common denominator in this equasion.
You need to find out why you are attracted to these men - or why you continually attract these men - and retrain yourself to see the signs or stop the behavior so that you don't waste time on all the wrong guys any more. It takes a lot of introspection to do this, but the end result is worth it.
It's not your fault that there are inappropriate people out there, but it is your fault that you keep choosing them.
Whenever you come up with an all-inclusive negative (all men or all women are only after one thing, etc), the person to look at is you ... not them. People are individuals, and if every single individual you choose has one thing in common ... then you are the one who continually chooses these inappropriate people. YOU are the common denominator in this equasion.
You need to find out why you are attracted to these men - or why you continually attract these men - and retrain yourself to see the signs or stop the behavior so that you don't waste time on all the wrong guys any more. It takes a lot of introspection to do this, but the end result is worth it.
It's not your fault that there are inappropriate people out there, but it is your fault that you keep choosing them.
'There are good men certainly.
There are good women too.
I think its matching them up thats the problem.
Enjoy life , and whats meant for you will come your way.
Lifes a river , youve just got to go where it takes you .'
legend, i think that sounds wise, it is just your life, whom you gonna meet, how long you will be together, bad ending or good ending, hardly to chose.
There are good women too.
I think its matching them up thats the problem.
Enjoy life , and whats meant for you will come your way.
Lifes a river , youve just got to go where it takes you .'
legend, i think that sounds wise, it is just your life, whom you gonna meet, how long you will be together, bad ending or good ending, hardly to chose.
