my mums leaving

[akita01]

my mum has told me shes going to leave home and that shes told my dad i feel so angry i dont want to talk to her so i haven't asked anything please help me i'm so lost and confused

[joko]

i can't help you as i've never been in a similar situation, but i would suggest you post this in body and soul - this topic tends to be for gardening and household problems

[Kingaroo]

So sorry about your family upheaval. I can see why you must be in pain and so angry you don't want to talk to your mum. Don't do anything rash, just give yourself time. It is important to eventually let your mum tell you whatever she thinks you need to know about the situation, and to get your dad's side too. Of course, this is not about you, it's not your fault, nothing you could have done would stop it. Also remember that it wouldn't be fair to ask your parents to stay together "for the sake of the children" if they are truly unhappy together. But you have a right to be miserable too. I hope your parents both can put aside their own anger and pain long enough to be there for you.

The earlier poster is correct, this is more of a Body and Soul category question. I suggest you re-post there. You might mention your age as well, it helps people figure out what kind of advice to give. Body and Soul readers are a supportive group and will continue to converse with you as you report what's going on in your life.

Hang in there, dear! You'll find your feet again!

[NORMANTHEDOG]

also try putting this question in parenting

[Sparkles3]

I don't know how old you are, but this happened to me when I was 16 and I too was incredibly angry with my mother. I didn't really asked any questions, but saw my dad cry on a number of occasions which cut right through me. I didn't 'forgive' my mum until I was about 25, if I'm honest, although our relationship was OK. I can relate to how devastated you must feel - my parents never argued, so I really didn't see it coming. My only advice to you (which might sound harsh to you, but is given with the benefit of hindsight) is to remember that she is a person with her own life too (not just a mum and wife) and has a right to be happy. I certainly didn't even consider that at the time, hence I had no interest in her reasons or her happiness, to say nothing of considering how difficult the decision to decide to leave must have been for her to make.

[Sparkles3]

>>cont.
I would implore you to talk to your mum and your dad and explain to them how you are feeling and listen and try to understand their views. Hopefully, they will be able to give you a lot of support through this difficult time. If you have close friends that you can turn to, talk to them too. I have utmost sympathy for what you are going through, it must feel like your whole world has been turned upside down and what you've trusted has been ripped away.
I hope I haven't come across to you as unsympathetic, as what I'd love to do is give you a really big hug. But now at 32 I can reflect somewhat differently on how it felt 16 years ago.
Take care of yourself xx