Doggy Blues

[mizfiesta]

I've recently met a guy online and we've met up a few times and get on well. He has a 4 month old puppy, but as it's from a large breed (French Mastiff) it's already a fair size.
The guy lives around 20 miles from where I live so the twice he's been to my house, he's brought the dog with him. Although I like all animals and living creatures, I don't consider myself a 'dog person' and I'm a bit OCD when it comes to animals in my house. I wish it was different but I'm not.
So when the puppy comes in to my house the guy basically lets it do what it wants. It climbs on sofa, bites my cushions and my play bites my feet! The guy just basically laughs while exclaiming "it's only a pup" when I start to protest.
Anyway, the guy wanted to visit me on Saturday evening and I asked him if he could get someone to watch the dog for him while he comes through for a while. He was mad at me and long story short, he didn't come through. Today he text me and he wanted to come through but said he would need to bring the dog. I said no, and that we were going to go round in circles with this subject. I said I was sad that this was an issue. He text back saying I was sad any and hardly a bundle of laughts and had control issues - then blocked me.
I already felt bad enough about the fact I couldn't cope with the pup, but he's made me feel like a complete nutter. So, my question is, how many of you would just have tried to accommodate the dog to make way for a budding relationship? Or would anyone else have stood firm? I actually cried earlier as I just felt so inadequate and upset...

[Mamyalynne]

t's not really a question of whether anyone else would accommodate a new guy in their life with a dog - what matters is it means something to you.

It does not make you a nutter or a control freak, but does mean looking for new relationships with someone who shares your views.

[Patsy33]

Oh let him go! He sounds like he's the one that's controlling. You're NOT inadequate! Next time , perhaps you can find a nice guy without a dog or a smaller dog with more respect for you.....

[rockyracoon]

He sounds like a bit of a selfish sod if you ask me. You're well rid.

[marval]

It sounds like he put the dog before you. I think you should stop worrying about it and move on with your life.

[jan1956]

think I would have kept it in kitchen or garden not let it in front room with settee and cushions.

[maggiebee]

Your space - your rules. I would not let a dog in my house, it would have to stay in the garden. I would never harm an animal, but just don't like dogs all that much, and certainly not on my sofa.

[anneasquith]

Don't be upset, I have a dog who I love, but I don't expect everyone to feel the same.

[Hopkirk]

You are well out of that one.

[woofgang]

I am a massive dog lover and my house is always a tip because of it....and I would still kick him to the kerb....its not the dog as such, its because he is disrespecting you. You are you, as you are and are entitled to be like that. He is NOT entitled to come to your house and behave as though its his house. Give him the elbow, its him who has the control issues and I feel sorry for his dog.

[snags]

This issue is obviously unresolvable on both sides: better to find out now than later after you've made more of a commitment. Put it down to experience and move on.

[Hopkirk]

To quote someone famous, "there were three of you in the relationship"

[Old_Geezer]

Wot they said ^^^^

Folk need a relationship with someone who takes their feelings into consideration and doesn't just insist that what they want goes. Relationships are about give & take, compromise. Find someone with whom you are more compatible.

[Samuraisan]

You are well rid of him. I would have a cardiac arrest if someone brought their dog and behaved like that in my house. Gawd only knows what state his place is in.

[-SharonA-]

I am not a dog lover (after being bitten) so both the guy and dog would be history.

[pixie374]

I agree with OG. It doesn't matter who else here likes dogs, or would be happy with it. You aren't, he should have listened.

[mizfiesta]

Thank you all SO much for your responses thus far - they've helped enormously. I feel a bit better now. I wish I could nominate you all for 'best answer'.

[anneasquith]

Just give BA to me miz :-)

[Georgiesmum]

He is clearly not for you. You have done nothing wrong, just move on.

[jennyjoan]

I have a dog too and he has the run of my house - but that wouldn't apply to another person bringing their dog in to run around my house - that would include friends' dogs too.

Move on and get a decent guy.

[RATTER15]

Thank you woof, saved me typing it all out. "I am a massive dog lover and my house is always a tip because of it....and I would still kick him to the kerb....its not the dog as such, its because he is disrespecting you. You are you, as you are and are entitled to be like that. He is NOT entitled to come to your house and behave as though its his house. Give him the elbow, its him who has the control issues and I feel sorry for his dog." I couldn't have said it better!