is phone sex cheating

[hadmart]

just found out my partner has been phoning 09 phone sex lines. Says he has only done it twice out of curiosity from his mobile but for the past few months has been hiding his mobile phone bills from me when they come each month. Found out by finding an old bill he had left aropund. Says he wont do it again and is not interested in them. Have asked him to show me all his phone bills for reassurance he has only done it twice but he refuses. What you think?

[chrisaturner]

dont think its cheating maybe he just likes to talk to somone alot and finds talking to somone on a phone helps comfort him

[nat_84]

I was be REALLY peed off if i found out my boyfriend was doing that!

[nat_84]

would (sp!)

[Octavius]

Sounds harmless enough to me - apart from the cost of course. If he continues to do it, prior to satisfying his curiosity you might have a deeper problem. Suggest that if he wants to 'talk dirty' then could he do it with you instead.

[Blyss]

I think its hes callin a number out of a magazine its not really cheating ..just a bit seedy.
If hes been talking online in a chatroom or somthing to anotehr woman and then has phone bone with her ..then yes ..hes cheating.

[ELVIS68]

Is the phone bill in his name or joint

[nat_84]

I dont think its harmless - i think you need words with ur fella - and ask him why he needs cheap thrills from girls over the phone...?

[ELVIS68]

Hardly cheap nat...�1.50 a minute ...so i`ve heard lol

[nat_84]

lol - u nutter

[Blyss]

its kinda the same as lookin at a porno mag Nat ...just with sound.
that is if its the number out of a mag

[PinkFizz]

Tell him to call you and you wont charge as much!!

Seriously,I would be a tad peed off - ok,very peed off.If he refuses to show you his bill then I would suspect he has been ringing them a lot more than he says.Aren't they incredibly expensive??

[B00]

Not sure whether I'd feel he'd been cheating or not, but I'd definitely be ashamed on his behalf- I mean...how sad is that- phoning what he thinks is a nubile 21 yr old when in reality it's more than likely a 60odd year old grandma who's knitting at the same time as waffling bilge to him.

Actually it's quite funny........sorry!

[Rubyrose]

I don't know if thats cheating! If he had been chatting to someone he knew and started having phones sex with them then I would take that as cheating but it seems what he is doing is purely for sexual kicks! But.. cheating or not... there is no way it can really be defined and thats not whats important.. whats important is how its made you feel and why he couldn't come to you with it.

[nat_84]

I don't give a $hit if it's a girl from a magazine or that maniac cas23 chick from that other thread (actually hadmart - it could be her!) - if he was getting 'expensive' thrills from a woman over the phone - whilst i'm sitting at work thinking about getting jiggy with mr nat tonight - i'd be annoyed!

[Rubyrose]

Elvis.. haha.. Just read yours! You didn't pay a penny for your ones did you? ;o)

[Goodsoulette]

Its not cheating. I dont think it would bother me. If you already know about it though makes you wonder why he wont let you see his mobile phone bill. You either trust him or you dont but iof the phone sex thing really winds you up then tell him it isnt an option in the future.

[Rubyrose]

I think I am with Nat on this! It is another human being at the other end of the phone who is giving him a helping hand (so to speak) and the other person isn't you! So its causing a problem. Maybe you should tell him you use those sexlines too and see what he says then?

[nat_84]

I'm not saying its cheating - i just think it shows a major lack of respect.

[PinkFizz]

lol Ruby! Yes,I agree,if he wanted to look at porn mags or a film with you then thats great,but to call sex lines behind your back - and as Boo says,they are more often then mot middle aged housewives at home with their slippers on!

[Rubyrose]

I think its cheating in the mildest sense of the word! But he shouldn't be doing things like that with anyone other than his partner!... But.... I don't know! I can't judge!