Not sure where to put this!

[katangel26]

I've been chatting to a bloke for the last few months (every morning after dropping my son off). Last week he mentioned something about not wanting to sell on ebay as he didn't know that first thing about it, to which, I simply said 'if you need any help let me know cos I sell quite a bit on there'. He then asked when I was free so he could pop round maybe on his lunch break (as he works round the corner from where I live) or after he leaves work. We ended up going into another conversation so it was no longer mentioned.

When I saw him today he asked when I was free so he could pop round. I was kinda put on the spot and said 'I'm not sure when I'm free, I'll get back to you when I see you tomorrow'.

The thing is, I've had a think and am not sure it's a good idea for him to pop round, I know him to talk to but don't really know him and it'd feel weird him coming in my house when I don't know him that well if you see what I'm saying.

I actually really like him and thought he might have liked me but having had that conversation with him I'm beginning to think he doesn't.

Just wondering if anyone agrees that I', right to be wary and what I should say to him x

[sleeveless]

Your gut instinct is telling you to be wary... listen to it hun. Is there an internet cafe near you? If there is tell him he can buy the coffee and you'll run him through the basics of Ebay selling with him. If he's genuine he won't worry where you teach him.
Good luck x

[naz_nomad]

If you really feel you need to help him, meet in the library, or an internet cafe etc...etc... and talk him through it ...

[naz_nomad]

damn ...sleeveless can type quicker than me

[katangel26]

Hi Sleeveless, thanks for your reply. There actually isn't an internet cafe near me. I'm just not sure what to say to him tomorrow because if he is interested I don't want to sound like I'm putting him off.

[sair5412]

Hi Katangel,

I'd say your gut instinct is telling you something here. You don't feel comfortable with the idea so therefore I think you would be doing the right thing by not allowing this man in to your house. Yes he may seem nice but you just never know. I think you should be honest with him and just say you don't think it's a good idea and you don't really feel comfortable with the idea. If he is a genuine guy, he will completely understand and won't persue it with you. You can easily say this in a light-hearted way. However, you can keep putting him off for the time being and just use Christmas and being busy as an excuse. That way you have at least until after the new year to decide what you will do. If you do decide to let him come round, I would suggest you have someone "just popping by" when he will be there. I would definately say though, go with your instinct for now. It's there for a reason.
xx

[sair5412]

Oh and if you like him and he likes you, he will meet you when it's convenient and it's not unbelievable to be a bit busy at this time of year! Like others have said, meet him somewhere public. Not in your home. xx

[wonderwoman1]

Could you maybe arrange for a friend to be there with you?

xx

[katangel26]

Thanks for your answers, thought I was being silly there for a mo, it's not that I'm wary of him cos he does seem lovely if you know what I mean, just people that I don't know in general. Do you think it'd sound too corny if I, in a round about way, asked him for his mobile as I don't know when I'm gonna be free but could text him if I am, or does that sound like I just want his number lol

[sair5412]

You could do. Then you'd see his reaction to you asking for his number. Just remember though, if he really likes you, he will not push you into meeting at yours. Maybe him asking you to show you ebay is his "excuse" to meet up. He might not have thought properly about the fact it'd be better to meet in public- could be an innocent mistake? But, if you want to, you need to think of a reason to meet him somewhere public!

[katangel26]

Thats the thing, he offered to look at the boot of my car a few weeks back, said if I took it to the garage on that saturday afternoon that he'd look at it (the boot won't open, he's the manager at a garage, how handy!) but even if I did, we wouldn't beable to chat properly as he'd be at work!

[NiceCupOfTea]

I think he does like you, but you don't or can't. If you're involved/married tell him that your partner wouldn't approve (or words of your choice). If not, do what your instinct is telling you and put him off and don't worry about how he feels about the knock back.

Aside from not helping him, he obviously has internet at home or wouldn't be talking about selling on e-bay. The instructions on e-bay are pretty foolproof, so much so that even I have managed it so maybe try jotting down some notes for him such as best ways to take pictures, working out costs and postage, then tell him to read the instructions and leave it at that.

[joko]

arrange to have a mate at your place when he arrives

[kate1976]

Tell him your PC is broken if you don't want him around, if he offers to have a look at it for you tell him you have a friend looking at it when they have time!!

[katangel26]

Well I spoke to him this morning, he asked if I'd had a think about when he can pop round, I told him I don't think I'm free this week (what with xmas) and that I'm not not gonna see him again until the new year as my son breaks up from school today (so I won't be walking past the garage) to which he said, 'you can always pop in the garage or I can give you my number' so I said yes and he's going to give me his number this afternoon when I pick my son up.

Still don't want him round though so I might say what Kate1976 suggested, at least I'll have his number lol

[liquidspace]

Sounds like he likes you and used the ebay thing as an excuse to get to know you. Good luck.

[teag1rl]

Given your posts a while back katangel, I'd say this guy definitely likes you and using ebay as an excuse to spend some time with you without having the embarrassment of saying 'would you like to go for a drink?' and having you say no. I think he will relent on the pushing you into meeting at your hse once you've got his number. Just make sure you use it!

[katangel26]

teag1rl you see how long I've been waiting lol. Hopefully you're right. I was thinking about giving him my number at the same time but thought there's nothing I can say to justify it really so decided on forgetting that idea. Thanks for all of your replies, you've all really helped. I just feel like giving him a shove in the right direction but it's difficult x

[teag1rl]

I know how to shove him! Wait til a bit nearer Christmas and send him a message saying something seasonal like...I dunno. "Happy Christmas!!!. Sorry to disturb you, I'm a bit tipsy". See how it goes from there-bit of text banter might give you both a better idea of where you stand. (and he'll have your number ;o) If you dont hear anything off him you can just blame the drink (whether you've had any or not!)