Where abouts is the damage on your vehicle? The chances are the insurance companies will decide who is liable, deciding whether you lose your excess or not. If your insurance company is not happy with the quote for repair that you/the dealership have sent them they will have a 'damage assessment company' assess your vehicle. The downside to this is that they would replace an entire part even if it was only slightly scratch. Also if someone does come out to your vehicle and then you decide to drop the claim (maybe because you found that a garage could repair it for £300) the chances are your vehicle would be flagged on the DVLA database as a 'catergory D write off' thus requiring you to have it checked (which costs) by an official DVLA centre to do a VIC (Vehicle inspection check). I had the same problem when i had an accident which was not my fault, my insurance company wanted to write my vehicle off (Citroën Saxo), I told them politely to go away. I had the vehicle repaired by a private bodyshop for £500 (the company that inspected my vehicle said it would of cost £1200 to repair which is why they said it would be a write off). The only problem was that my excess was, at the time, £800 which I would get back (after months of insurance settlement, leaving me with around £400 to buy a new car (imposible)). I assumed everything was a-ok until I received a letter from the DVLA telling me that I would be unable to tax my vehicle until it had undergone a VIC check. My suggestion is, depending on your excess and liability, drop the claim and scrap your vehicle.
Dizmo,