Our careers advisor is unmarried and pregnant

[Keeley16]

Our school is always teaching us that we should get married before we have children but our careers advisor who is also a supply teacher is unmarried and pregnant, she is in a relationship with the father but surely that goes against everything they teach us.

[sandyRoe]

Why? It's clearly a case of 'do as we say, not as we do'.

[redcrx]

"we should get married before we have children"
should! its not illegal you know!

[boxtops]

This is something which - these days - is very much up to the individual's circumstances, and person beliefs.

If your careers advisor is in a stable relationship, just not married, that what lots of people do these days, many people live together for years (if not all their lives) without getting married.

The worry at the moment, and the message which the school is trying to get across to young people, is that babies shouldn't ideally be conceived to teenage parents by accident, or just because you feel like it, or because life would be better if you had a baby - having a long term relationship, married or not, is a much better basis for bringing up a child.

[Zeuhl]

There is a difference between <should> and 'must'.

It may be desirable for children to be born into a committed relationship bound by a legal contract (ie marriage) but hopefully the teacher in question will be an example that this is not essential - heaven knows there are plenty of examples where marriage has not provided a good environment for child rearing.

[Mosaic]

Keeley, I think you may be posting this to try to make mischief for this teacher. I am sure your school teaches ethical behaviour - not just that their belief is that marriage is the ideal setting for children to be raised within. So if my guess is right, before you try getting at someone anonymously online thnk a bit more about you on ethical behaviournd aso remember that if it comes to litigation, your post can be traced back to you.

[Noraq]

Is this teacher advocating a career in being an unmarried mother....no?...so what's the problem?. Obviously the Board of Management don't have a problem.

[boxtops]

Good point mosaic - plus, Keeley only joined AB two minutes before posting this.

[Mosaic]

'you on ' = your own
Wireles keeps dropping out on me. Plus can't type for toffee.

[LoftyLottie]

I think perhaps teachers should leave the word 'marriage' out and just say that babies should be born into a permanent and commited relationship where they are planned and the parents are adult enough to bring children up in a secure and loving environment.

[boxtops]

I agree Lottie - perhaps it's a faith school, where some religions advocate that sex outside marriage is a bad thing.

[Mosaic]

Thing is Lottie, if this is eg a RC school then they will have an agreed framework from the diocese that sets out what their stance is - common sense doesn't always come into it!

[LoftyLottie]

Possibly, but in that case the pregnant teacher would probably not be working there if she is unmarried, or at the very least not giving moral guidance ;o)

[LoftyLottie]

The school would just make itself look totally ridiculous!!

[redcrx]

perhaps Keeley will come back and give us more details on where shes going with this question.

[LoftyLottie]

MIRA EVERCLEAR HANDSET 2.1616.030 WHITE

[LoftyLottie]

Sorry, that was the cat!!

She head butted my hand when I was trying to post and I must have pressed control and V together!!!

[DTCwordfan]

Bet she doesnt come back

[Mosaic]

yeah but, no but, employment law would not enable them to terminate her contract for having a bun in the oven. And local authorities would not to date allow such a school to introduce contracts that did.

[LoftyLottie]

I was trying to say that my reply was to Boxtops!! Bloomin' cat!!

[Zeuhl]

Lottie - that is the most profound answer ever.