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straight acting gay men...
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a few months ago i was round my gay mates house and he is somewhat straight acting - you wouldnt know, but may suspect after a good while...(not deliberately, its just how he is) however his boyfriend is very effeminate and camp - voice and mannerisms, so much so that there could be no doubt
however, conversation got onto straight acting gays, and i commented that my friend (MF) could do it easily, and his boyfriend (BF) commented about himself being straight acting and that no-one knew he was gay!... i of course thought he was joking and laughed and made a sarcastic joke... he then 'acted shocked', so i again laughed - and so did everyone else - thinking he was playacting a wounded heart but it eventually became apparent he was serious - he was mortified and upset and began to argue with me and everyone, and we were all stunned...
now this guy sounds like high pitched louis spence without the lisp and has a very slight build and his mannerisms are very camp and speaking style is a very cliched "ohh god i feel ashamed, oh god i just love it, oh god " etc ... and even MF was surprised he believed he was straight acting.
is this common? are there really loads of gay men out there who have no idea how they appear to others?
i personally couldnt care less how they act, but this did surprise me.
i felt awful for upsetting him but also felt he needed to realise that people do know....
thanks
however, conversation got onto straight acting gays, and i commented that my friend (MF) could do it easily, and his boyfriend (BF) commented about himself being straight acting and that no-one knew he was gay!... i of course thought he was joking and laughed and made a sarcastic joke... he then 'acted shocked', so i again laughed - and so did everyone else - thinking he was playacting a wounded heart but it eventually became apparent he was serious - he was mortified and upset and began to argue with me and everyone, and we were all stunned...
now this guy sounds like high pitched louis spence without the lisp and has a very slight build and his mannerisms are very camp and speaking style is a very cliched "ohh god i feel ashamed, oh god i just love it, oh god " etc ... and even MF was surprised he believed he was straight acting.
is this common? are there really loads of gay men out there who have no idea how they appear to others?
i personally couldnt care less how they act, but this did surprise me.
i felt awful for upsetting him but also felt he needed to realise that people do know....
thanks
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.oh yes i am stereotyping to get my point across on here, to be clear... i guess thats why things become stereotypes - because they are often true or at least stem from truth
i actually thought he was one of those gay men who actually somewhat put on the campness...who revel in it...hence why i had no idea he thought he wasnt
i know many many gay people - mostly from theatre backgrounds and the local scene, and i know many different 'types' and he is indeed a stereotypical one - imagine lily savages voice on helium.
i agree there are exceptions - people like david walliams who is straight but 'acts gay', and some men who are just not 'butch', so there is a 'wonder' about them, but this guy is so over the line of doubt it really did stun me.
i agree jno we all are different to others than we think.
i actually thought he was one of those gay men who actually somewhat put on the campness...who revel in it...hence why i had no idea he thought he wasnt
i know many many gay people - mostly from theatre backgrounds and the local scene, and i know many different 'types' and he is indeed a stereotypical one - imagine lily savages voice on helium.
i agree there are exceptions - people like david walliams who is straight but 'acts gay', and some men who are just not 'butch', so there is a 'wonder' about them, but this guy is so over the line of doubt it really did stun me.
i agree jno we all are different to others than we think.
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