new relationship advice please.

[Jenarry]

i've been single for 10 months after a seriously hard break up last year . i've just started seeing someone new for the first time. i really like the new guy and he's making me feel very happy but i'm just concerned that he seems to want to see me every evening already and weekend.
it's so nice that he's keen but i don't feel that i want a 'spend every minute with each other' type relationship just yet. i want to take it slow and just have fun getting to know each other.
i'm also worried why he's doing this,whether it's due to some sort of insecurity on his part as i remember my ex (the one that dropped me from a great height last year) being like this during the early days and that in hindsight was an insecurity thing.
i've put new guy off tonight and get the vibe he is a little miffed. :O(
i know i need to tackle it with him but i dont want it to sound like i don't enjoy being with him.
any thoughts /advice on this or how i should deal with this will be appreciated.

[4getmenot]

Just tell him you like your time alone. If he doesnt like it then he's not the one for you.

[society]

Tell the new guy what you told us up there ^^^, exactly how you feel about him moving too fast,

[boxtops]

Tell him you like your own space, and he needs to understand that. When you've been on your own for a while, it's claustrophobic to be pressured into close contact if you're not quite ready for it.

[4getmenot]

I was on my own for years then got with my bloke and he just kept cuddling me all the time and I couldnt stand it, I wasnt used to it at all. Now I'm always trying to cuddle him. :-)

[hibeeslass]

I know exactly how you feel, too needy, too keen you are wary too after being let down before i guess. I've got it good like we live in separate cities an hours drive sure but i've never been happier. Good luck go with your gut instinct.

[joko]

thing is though, a lot of new relationships start that way when you both really like each other...was it a bit of a whirlwind type thing?

because these tend to be very intense and all or nothing kind of thing... but gradually they tend to settle into a more even keel as you get to know each other and the initial 'buzz' wears off a bit

[andy-hughes]

I think vibrasphere has got to the root cause of your issue.

You need to establish some boundaries and simple rules, for both of you. It's easy, but ultimately bad, to drop all friends and interests for one new man. Bring the issue up, and see how he reacts. It will give you a good idea of whether or not you have any future - short-term or long-term - to look at.