quit my job

[zzxxee]

so here it is in a nutshell have had a job on a childrens cancer ward for a few weeks, today found a little boy age two dead , his mum had been told it would be a few hours and was asleep in the chair next to him.
i have worked in care for years but this has beaten me emotionally i thought i would be strong enough to cope with situations like this but not so. Have told my ward manager i cant go back. There are some people who can do this and i admire them but, im just not strong enough. Having a few days out and going back to care for the elderly. Yes it is not nice when they pass on, but at the end of 90 plus years you accept it. I cannot comprehend a 2 year old being taken by such a cruel disease

[Jan1957]

I think it takes a very special type of person to do a job like that zzxxee and I can understand how upsetting it must have been for you. As you say, even if you prepare for it you don't know how you will feel until it actually happens. I know I could never do it nor could I work with the elderly, it's just not something I could cope with. I think it's a good idea to take a few days out and hopefully you will get over this, given time. Take care. xx

[ttfn]

Hi zzxxee - I second everything that Jan has just said. I am so sorry to hear about the young boy who has lost his life and I know that this is not an isolated incident. I admire you enormously for having tried this job zzxxee and respect your decision to return to an area of care work that you have done before. If anyone here thinks you have not made a wise decision to undergo the training and try the role out on the ward then I defy them to make the same effort you have. I applaud you for trying zzxxee ♥

[ummmm]

Why the hell was my posts removed? I haven't said anything wrong...!!!!

[Mamyalynne]

I can only surmise ummmm that it what the critical way you expressed yourself? But am guessing here, do not want to repeat what you said as that would open it up again.

[China Doll]

Actually, I think you and Dris were a bit harsh ummmm... You might not have meant it but it did come across that way to me.

[ummmm]

What...saying it wasn't fair on the employers? The fact is it's not fair on the employers. Quit the job...fair enough...but give them adequate notice. That's just courteous.

[cazzz1975]

I can understand why you have made this difficult decision zzxxee, I doubt that I could take the emotional rollercoaster that doing a job like that involves. you have to do what is right for you, I admire your choice to continue to work in care. x

[ttfn]

CD - I have only just logged on to AB but i cannot for the life of me think why anyone would post anything harsh on a thread such as this. There is one poor wretched family in the Bristol area grieving for the loss of a 2 year old - why would anybody post something harsh here?

[ummmm]

I don't think I posted anything harsh ttfn. I basically posted what I said a few posts up...

[Dris]

I dont understand why my posts were removed.I was under the assumption that if someone posted a thread they were inviting posts in general.
I didnt post anything nasty or contentious -I even mentioned my Nannies death -I only rectified a point in the OP which would be backed up by previous threads by the OP.

[sherrardk]

Hi xxxxxx, I am sorry to hear the sad news and I think you are very brave to quit. The work is not for you and you obviously want what is best for the children and their families, far better to leave than to stay because of what others may think. It wouldn't surprise me if you haven't got a contract yet for this very reason - your employers will have encountered this before when other people have realised that this sort of work is not for them. I think you did brilliantly to even consider this line of work. Hope you can try and put this behind you. x

[ttfn]

Dris and ummmm - with respect, I have followed zzxxee's posts from her applying for this job through to being successful, starting her training and going on to the ward. Her posting today has broiught me to tears. Personally. I don't think it is a suitable thread for posting corrections on. Perhaps we can all just move on now.

[China Doll]

^^^ What ttfn said. Although it didn't bring me to tears admittedly.

[4getmenot]

we have lots of people where I work that quit within first week or so because it isnt what they thought. But there are lots of people in care that replacements are easy enough. Think zzxxee really needs us on here to reasure her it was the right thing to do and suport her. Hope you are ok xx

[society]

I imagine this experience must have left you traumatised. All the best to you, whatever you choose to do. x

[ummmm]

Jeez...I just said she should give them some notice. What is so wrong with that?

If I employed someone...waited months for them to be cleared...trained them and then they left after a week...I'd be pretty peeved.

So the job is not for her....fair enough, like I said, but giving notice is courteous. Leaving them under staffed is not.

What was I suppose to say? Poor you for finding a job on a childrens cancer ward too difficult? The fact is it's a job, it needs doing, and now they are one person down.

[ummmm]

Ok...get the message. We can only post nice things. Not opinions or facts.

[sherrardk]

Ummm - little point in zzxxee returning to this job, it's not for her. I am sure the ward can find cover for her, in much the same way that they would cover for a sick colleague. It's not like she just didn't like the job, she has outlined her reasons and the majority of people on here understand them.

[ummmm]

Sherr....I understand them. Don't get me wrong....It must be awfully hard.

[starone]

zzxxee dear, I could not bear anything like that and so I know how you feel. I am crying for you, I know it isn't going to do any good, but at least you will know you are supported.