neighbour problem

[lsharp]

i am having a problem with my neighbour at the moment she is 84 and will find something 2 moan about everyday. things got that bad a few years back as she started to acuse my kids of things etc, we had a harrassment order against her but that has ran out and the police are now saying it is not 2 do with them. we are both private residents so cannot get council involved. the other week my staff dog got into her garden because she cannot be bothered to get her fence fixed, it is hers and i cannot get it fixed. she did not like my dog being in her garden and let it out of her front door which then he got run over! a few weeks later the dog go back in2 the garden as she still hasnt bothered 2 get the fence fixed and she took his colllar off apparently as proof that the dog went in2 her garden the police arrived and said there is nothing that they can do as it is a civil matter,,can any1 help with what i can do as it is getting behond a joke and it is not fair on my children to have the polce round every minutes many thanks.

[squarebear]

With all due respect, I wouldn't care for your dog running around in my garden either. Why should she pay for the fence if the only reason for it is to stop your dog getting in?

If you are worried about the dog going next door then you could put up a fence of your own or pay to have the existing one repaired.

[lsharp]

how can i get another fence put up when it is her property. she will not give us permission to do this? i understand noone would want a dog running around in there garden but we have tried our hardest to do this, we have covered the holes that he gets through???

[petal54]

does this lady not have any family/social worker that you can speak to about this?as she may suffer with dottyness,I know that elderly people are 'difficult',but she ,if on her own,finds moaning the only way she knows how to have any contact with people.not alot of help,I know ,good luck

[lsharp]

she has a son that visits her at christmas and he only lives 20 minutes up the road. she doesnt get out enough everyone has said this but she is only like it with us when there is plenty of other people she can moan at, my partners sister works for the youth side of the police and can only suggest giving her leaflets etc about local clubs etc. but what we cant understand is that she used to go bingo etc and over the last 6 years has totally changed

[squarebear]

My gran changed suddenly like that. One day she was out and about all the time and the next she never stepped out of the house.

It's just old age I'm afraid.

[Ethel]

You can put a fence up on your side of the boundary -it is your duty to keep that dog under control and in your own garden.

The neighbour does not have to fix the fence - she can take it down entirely if she wants to. That is the law.

Get a fence put up as close the boundary, but on your side, as you can.

[lsharp]

yea i can understand that but its been going on for years now this is not the only problems we have had with her.

[lsharp]

yes but what you dont understand is that we have asked her if we can take that part of fence down and replace it she said no. i own one side of the fencing on the right and she owns the other side

[lsharp]

why would i do that just beause of a neighbour u obviously dont own dogs what a cruel thing 2 say

[Ethel]

You don't have to interfere with her fence at all. Bang some posts in your side and either put a fence up or strong chicken wire.

Her fence can be left exactly as it is, where it is,

[lsharp]

sorry miss no it all

[Ethel]

Miss Know It All, actually.

No need to be rude to me when I am simply telling you how to solve the problem you asked about.

[lsharp]

i didnt ask if anyone can help witht the fence but the fact that she harrasses us and how i can go about doing something

[Ethel]

You haven't specified anything in your OP except the fact your dog gets in her garden and she doesn't like and calls the police.

When else does she harass you or call the police? You have given no other examples

[jkkerr]

Stop whining, put a fence up, and take responsibility for your dog and brats.

[tigerlily11]

WWWWoooo wait a minute here.
Why does every one come down on the side of the old girl. I have had the misfortune of living next door to some one in her 70's who did nothing but b*tch about everything and everyone.
This person said to start with that the woman moans about everything.
And so did the woman I lived next door to.
SHe would get nasty with every one who even came close to her garden gate or fence.
While it might be wise to talk to her or a relitive it still does not change the fact that there is every possibility she will complain about anything that come in to contact with her fence just because she knows she can.
I think that it might be an idea to get some sort of outside help to deal with this.
JK you don't have naighboors obviously or else you might have a little more common sense other than just to blame some ones kids or dog.

[Ethel]

Nobody is 'siding with the neighbour'.

I have given practical advice about one problem that is bound to be causing problems - the dog that is not kept in its own garden.

The OP has not given us details of any other problem except to say 'she moans'.

[tigerlily11]

Not you Ethel most JK.
They are children not brats.