Please Help.

[Mrswjen]

Hi all, I really need some advice 2 years ago I stupidly opend 3 catalouges in family's names, at the time my husband was violant toward me and then was posted to Afghanistan and I was on my own with a 3 month old and a 2 year old. I was so depressed and was also suffering from a compulsive disorder. I am not a Nast person I would give any one the shirt off my back. I don't even know what possessed me to do it, I didn't do it out of mall ace or with at intent to anyone I really don't know why I did it. I have never ever been in trouble with the police and my husband is an officer in the British army, well last week my mother checked her credit file and I was found out which led to her phoning the police. They had a appointment at there house tonight with the police, my mobile started ringing and it was my mum so I answered it and it was the police man, I live in Surrey now but it happened in Essex so he asked if I could come to Essex for an voluntary interview and said did I want a solicitor to which I asked well I don't know I have never been in trouble befor he then said that if I had a solicitor it would take hours and hours and I would be kept in a police cell and if I just came in I would just be caution and I would get it sorted. He said if I told the truth all would be ok if I lied I would go to prison. I am very confused as to why he wouldn't want me to have a solicitor I am glad I am getting punished for what I have done my family don't deserve the hurt and pain that I have caused and I love them more then anything I'm just confused as I was expecting to get arrested and have a solicitor? Any help would be greatly appreciated as my husband and I split two weeks ago due to his infedelity and I am on my own in Surrey with 2 very small children thank you please don't judge me I'm really not a nasty person I was I'll xx

[boxtops]

Can I suggest - do you have access to SSAFA as part of your army wife support network? I would hope you do, and they are such a supportive organisation - why don't you give them a ring? Your mum sounds charming - it sounds as if she's got a male friend to wind you up, and my goodness they have succeeded. You might find a number for SSAFA on the notice board at your son's play group as you says it's on the camp. Have a look.

[Mrswjen]

I think what has happened is she went for the interview or what ever she had to do, she didn't press charges but got all the information together and decided to do this instead cos she must have got info from somewear she said he interview didn't finish till 10 but no was was she there for 4 hours x

[Mrswjen]

Yes thank you I didn't think of saffa I will try them thank you xx

[murraymints]

Doubt very much she has even done that...she has a vivid megalomaniac imagination..she is a control freak that likes to exercise power over you. DON'T LET HER !!

[Mrswjen]

I really don't think this is real now at all, tho again I may be wrong but I don't think I am, you are all such amazing people

[Mrswjen]

Murray thats exactly what she is my husband used to say that about her it's cos I'm not like her I have emotions and she takes that as weekness so I'm easy for her to do that 2.

[murraymints]

You ...and we...are NOT wrong.....get some sleep tonight and try not to let this business take over your life..xx

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

I said it at the beginning and even with all that extra information I'm saying it again.
Whoever you spoke to on the phone was not a policeman.
Don't go on holiday with her. Don't go near her.
You clearly have a very destructive relationship with your mother and that isn't healthy, for any of you.
Contacting SAFFA sounds like a great idea.
Go and show your kids some snowdrops and explain to them how life begins again in Spring. The police aren't coming for you.

[2sp_]

I don't think it would be up to her to press charges, it would be the catalogue companies.

She's full of crap. Stay away from her.

[March-Hare]

2sp_ suggested you obtain the policeman's name from your - and you tried but she wouldn't give it to you, but would pass a message on ............. IF you speak to her again, as for the crime reference number as she will have been given one if she has reported the catalogue issue ................. if she won't giev you that then it's cr*p for certain ...... she wouldn't give you his name as she was out on the spot and couldn't think of one quickly enough .... but surely anyone can dream up a numberwhen under pressure ............I believe most forces use a format that includes the date the report was made i.e. 19032013/xxx/xxxxxx ............ so unless she has really involved the police and has a genuine number (OR has researched how the number should look) then you will know it's all codswallop ............. either way take the number to your local station and ask them to check it's genuine ...................but it won't be!! x

[Mrswjen]

Well had a bette nights sleep last night I just hope it all works out

[Kiki-frog]

Glad you had a better night last night. Problems always seem worse if they keep you awake. Try to keep strong and calm for your little ones. It's just a shame they have such a malicious grandmother. x

[murraymints]

Good Jen.....forget her....get on with living xxx

[bednobs]

"i hate her for all of this it's torture and she still can't own up to it"
Bit like you never owned up to fraud then?

[Kiki-frog]

Bednobs - I don't understand what you're saying. She has owned up to fraud, hasn't she? And quite rightly feels bad about what she's done.

[bednobs]

well that's ok then, as long as she feel bad about it. And she didn't "own up" she let her mum find out years later when looking at her credit report

[magsmay]

@ bednobs -so after 175 previous posts you decide to add your gem of wisdom - which consists of one totally judgemental statement with no 'advice' as such -well if it makes you feel superior take a second out to think of the OP who has been frantic with worry thinking she's going to prison and have her two small chidren taken off her. Oh and read the advice on the top of this category -' 'we are not here to judge' maybe you should be reported for breach of AB rules ?

[bednobs]

feel free to report me then mags, if you want. So all the "oh no, she's terrible your mum, she is an evil person for doing this to you" posts are not judgemental/to be banned also then?

[magsmay]

I don't need your permission to report you bednobs and IF I could be bothered I would have done it by now -its not against AB rules to be judgemental of a third party not involved on the site(OP's mother) -there's enough slagging off of politicians and other people in the media) BUT its advised in the Law section of AB that posters are there to try and answer questions without being judgemental -this is not ChatterBank.

[bednobs]

well as the presumed question has been answered by the second reply, what were the other 177 for?