been reading these posts and quietly smiling to myself, some people think they got it bad some think they know it all, its a shame really, i was in the same boat 21 years ago, ex had first class job i was left with 3 young kids to bring up he evaded maintenance and i watched him take several expensive holidays a year, buy a new car every 6 months, build a gorgeous 5 bed house for him and new gf and her 2 kids, he ignored his own kids i got a p/t job brought my kids up met someone else remarried had 2 more kids very very happy now my older children wont give their real father roomspace, they love their stepdad to bits and their half siblings and i sit back and smile in the warm glow of satisfaction that 20 years ago i knew would come, oh and by the way during this time of hell all those years ago i had baliffs banging my door down debt collectors calling and threats of reposession but not once did i ask my ex for anything. so no its not worth it ust wait and hold your temper cos what goes around comes around, y ex is a sad loser who is facing a lonely old age in big house cos the gf soon got bored and his chilren dont want to know and his xmas presents as every year gone by since my children became adults remain outsie the porch where they were left and will go to the local charity of choice. there is justice the natural way